The Informed Remedy

[This post is from the April 2019 newsletter – click here to read it.]

It’s time to talk about the informed remedy. Our mentor, Steven Decker once said, “A remedy isn’t a remedy until it remedies something.” Medicine has to be informed in order to be curative. How do you do this?

Well, it has to have a whole lot of consciousness and principles behind it. It feels a bit like if we’re being attacked, we’ve got to create the right arsenal, quickly and effectively so that it hits its mark. You have to know about the origin of the battle, isolate the coordinates, discern the root destination, and be sure not to take out any innocent bystanders in the process.

An informed remedy is one that, like a heat-seeking missile, is bestowed with the capacity to cleanly sweep out the disease matrix on the sound basis of the law of nature – like cures like. It must operate on resonance, albeit a slightly attenuated frequency. It has to be preprogrammed. Thorough, but not destabilizing in the way of a mighty healing reaction for the patient. Just the right directed dose and potency will do the job.

As you will learn, reading our articles this month, antibiotics (literally ‘against life’) are not informed remedies … they actually don’t know what they’re targeting. They wipe out the whole darn terrain, and the other casualties are your microbiome, critical to your healthy immune function. Also, there’s a good chance the enemy will martial its gnarly resources, again and again, until it is addressed outright.

Also, symptoms can be shape-shifters, or “pleomorphic”. As Heilkünstlers, we’re trained to read the signs for when the enemy tries to throw up false flags, pretends to surrender or even morphs into a whole other entity entirely.

What Is Neuropathy And How Do You Treat It?

Neuropathy is a painful, degenerative state of the nervous system. The reasons for this  – on a more dynamic, emotional, and spiritual level – are due to the fact that just about everyone gets on the suffer’s “nerves” and they’ve felt a lack of an energetic ‘flow’ for a very long time, due to the suppression of resentment and anger. Perhaps think of it this way, the opposite of flow is a sclerotic damning of energy, stemming from a hardening of the attitudes.

Michael J. Lincoln states in his book, Messages From The Body, that nerve pain is due to:

“NERVE PROBLEMS
“Disrupt-power.” They are experiencing a disruption of the flow of communication, in the form of input-deflecting and/or expression-suppressing. They are avoiding, preventing and distorting influence, education and evolution. As a result, the flow of information-transmission, action-initiation and behavior-facilitation has been derailed. They are grimly holding out and holding on to past strategies, resources, people and interpretations. They are freaked out and distrusting of the Universe, and they have to have “red alert” hands-on control of everything. But the result is a thorough bollixing of their situations. They feel that they are back in their dysfunctional family, and they are the only ones with any sanity in thc situation. The result is an escalating situation that emulates the family, as a function of their own interventions.

NERVE PAINS (Sharp, stabbing pains accompanying movements)
“Oh no you don’t!” They are getting “saber-rattle warnings” about “not stepping over that line” of self-commitment and self-manifestation. It is the resultant of an intense “keep them around the old homestead” programming. (See thc part(s) of the body affected)

NEURALGIA (Nerve aches)
“Cut off.” They have no self-forgiveness and no self-trust, with the result that they feel they deserve punishment out of continuously guilty feelings. They are in anguish over their communication difficulties with other people, and about their situation. There is very poor communication within them, a blockage or distortion that is causing them great pain. They received very little love as a child, and what there was, was very conditional and interspersed heavily with guilt- induction and shaming.

NEURITIS (Inflammation of the nerves)
“Agitated irritation.” They feel that they are continuously subjected to tension-inducing and frustrating stimulation. They feel powerless and undermined because of this. They come from an infuriatingly dysfunctional family who constantly generated situations, cvents and processes that were highly disruptive and derailing.”

In our experience, neuropathy sufferers are generally resistant to remediation. It’s taken them a long time to get this way, and you darn well better not interfere, as their distrust of you and the Universe is very well entrenched. Far be it for you to come along and upset their long-term apple cart!  

However, I do recall one dark-suited fellow who came to see me for neuropathy that was quite debilitating. He was the CEO of a multinational company. Within three visits, he surprised us all as he was completely cured.

 

Neuropathy is generally anchored to the Syphilitic Genetic Miasm. We term this the tonic disease; the root cause. For more on the chronic constant nature of the Chronic Miasms, see here.

Some of the pathic remedies used to support the patient’s recovery that we might look at for the individual, depending on their symptom picture, might be:

Arsenicum Album: Sharp, drawing pains in the back and limbs which are better on lying down. The pains are often worse at night, which the patient describes as shooting, pulling, or burning. Hard swelling of the fingers with cramps and discoloured nails. They have tearing and stinging in the hips with paralytic weakness in the thighs. Arsencium people are very controlling and meticulous, also suffering avarice. They will straighten all the pictures on the wall after a train has gone by.

Colocynthis: Drawing pains in the back as if the muscles were pulled taut, with great weakness and headaches in the morning. Bruise-like pain in the joints of the shoulders, making it difficult to open the fingers and pulling the tendons of the thumbs. The pelvis, sacral region, and hips all feel tensive lancination while walking, as if the psoas muscles were too short. Shooting pains in the legs, especially during repose. Tingling and a “going to sleep” sensation in the feet. Colocynthis is one of our chief remedies for suppressed rage and anger.

Dioscorea Villosa:  Stiff, dull pain in the back of the neck. Severe backache that feels better by moving. Sharp, deep pains in the left scapula, drawing pains in the sacrum where the whole length of the spinal cord feels bruised. Pricking, sharp, agonising, hard aching nerve pain in the forearms, wrists, and hands. Hard, dull tearing pains in the hips with weak, lame knees and ankles. Suffers restless, trembling, and faint feeling at night and early morning. This patient will call things by their wrong names, has an aversion to company, feels troubled, irritable, and cross with great depression of spirits.

Gelsemium: Neuralgic, rheumatic pains in the extremities. Their arms are weak and numb as if the right elbow were sprained. A draft of air at night causes pains in the left elbow. Their forearm cramps when trying to write, with pain in the right wrist as if sprained. The hands tremble, with coldness in the wrists and hands, and with spasmodic contraction of the fingers. Their gait is very unsteady, with fatigue at the slightest exercise. Loss of voluntary motion, with obstinate sciatic pains that radiate down into the legs with deep neuralgia. This individual is excessively irritable, prefers not to be spoken to, and prefers to be left alone.

Kalmia Latifolia: Muscles in the neck are stiff and sore to touch, and also while moving them, with a tearing-like pain. They suffer constant pain in the spine which is often worse in the lumbar region. The sensation can be so severe that it feels as if their spinal column would break. They suffer rheumatic and neuralgic pains in the upper arms and lower part of legs, which is worse when trying to go to sleep. Tearing pains from the hip down the right leg to the feet, with stitches of pain. The feet feel as if sprained. They have a weariness in all muscles with neuralgia, trembling, strumming, palpitation, and a thrilling pain. When lying down, mental faculties and memory are perfect, but on attempting to move, they suffer dizziness, heart palpitations, and anxiety. They often feel cross.

Kreosotum: Glands of the neck are swollen and small of the back feels as if it would break. Burning pains are worse at night and in repose. Drawing pain along coccyx to rectum and vagina, where a spasmodic, contractive pain is felt. Shooting pains in the shoulder joints, with cramp-like pains down the arms. The hands feel stiff, painful, and itchy, with pale fingers as if dead, and with tingling and numbness upon waking. Hips and legs feel bruised, and knees and feet feel as if they’re dislocated with a burning, itching sensation on the soles of the feet. Pain as if from being burnt and ulceration; painful paralytic sensation; pulling and shooting pains throughout the body. This patient is restless, weepy, morose, melancholy, obstinate, angry, with a despair of being cured.

Phosphorous: This patient suffer rigidity at the nape of the neck and pressure on the shoulders, with burning in the small of the back. Tearings and stitches in and beneath both scapulae, with pain in the coccyx impeding easy motion; they can find no comfortable position. Their limbs feel weak and paralysed, with tremblings in the joints with every exertion. There is burning and wrenching pain in the palms of the hands and arms with tension; swelling of hands, even at night. Lower limbs feel weak and uneasy with heaviness; painful fatigue and burning sensations throughout. Drawing, paralytic, and tearing (rheumatic pain) in knees, extending into feet. Burning pain in limbs; tension, cramping, jerking, and distortion of some of the limbs; also suffering sprains and easy dislocations. This individual suffers melancholy sadness, sometimes with violent weeping. They can feel like they are in several pieces, with apathy, anguish, and uneasiness when alone or in stormy weather. Becomes easily vexed and angry, which makes them exceedingly vehement, from which they suffer afterwards.Another aspect that we look at is how to support our patients while undergoing Heilkunst Treatment. This can take a bit of time as the underlying cause of the neuropathy is linked to unresolved issues on the patient’s traumatic timeline. While we’re peeling their onion, so to speak, we generally provide supplementation that helps, along with the curative remedies based on the law of nature, ‘like cures like’. By approaching the patient dynamically this way, we can help them obtain the long lasting results that they’ve craved.

 

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Five Homeopathic Remedies for Insomnia

When sleep issues arise, there are often easy fixes – given that they are not being caused by a deeper, chronic condition. I’ve included some of the top homeopathic insomnia remedies below.

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Aconite: Have you recently been exposed to a cold, dry wind? This is the most typical trigger for an aconite state. Especially the kind of cold that comes on suddenly, and unexpectedly, like at the change of seasons. While aconite is a common remedy for many cough and cold symptoms, it also addresses a specific type of insomnia. The Aconite insomnia is extremely restless, and may even feel anxious. The fast pace in denser urban centers may also create an aconite state in your nervous system. Tossing and turning, and even bad dreams may fill your night in this state. Around the hour of midnight is where you may feel some of the worst of the aconite state expressing itself.

Arnica: A classic arnica situation is one where the day and night schedule has been turned upside-down, as in shift work. Especially if you are on rotating shifts from one week to the next. Even if you’re now on day shifts, the old night shift disruption to your circadian rhythm will often be retained as a cellular memory.

Shock can also be a primary trigger for an arnica state. This can be either from being directly involved in a car accident, or just witnessing one. Any form of physical or emotional shock will trigger an arnica state. Sleep is not restful, and the bed may even feel too hard to be able to get comfortable.

Chamomilla: In one word, the chamomilla state is ‘fussy’. Your partner may be feeling fed up with your ever-changing demands, when in this state. You might feel sleepy in the evening, but then suddenly wide awake once you go to bed. The trigger for this state can be physical pain, such as from a recent injury, or from menstrual cramps. Restlessness and complaining are the  top characteristics. This state may be triggered by a recent troubling emotional event, which is not easy to let go of. The characteristic feeling is “I want something, but don’t know what…”.

Coffea: The keyword for coffea is ‘overstimulation’. It could even be the case that you’ve had too much coffee today, and now can’t wind down for sleep. Coffea is the remedy you need. Similarly, you may have been watching over stimulating TV shows before bed, or gotten embroiled in a heated debate on social media. Just recall the buzz you’ve ever had after drinking too much coffee. Anything which simulates this experience qualifies you for a dose of homeopathic coffea.

Nux Vomica: is for what I call the ‘jack in the box’ syndrome. You’ll fall asleep for a spell of time, but then keep popping back up all night long.  There’s hypersensitivity to noise, and just about anything else will keep waking you up. Chances are that you’ll wake with a fully formed to do list in your head.  This state is an unfortunate reality for many who have to take their work home with them, and effectively always feel ‘on call’ like an ambulance driver. The “off switch” has been deactivated in the nervous system.

As I mentioned above, the correct homeopathic remedy can put an end to your insomnia rapidly – given that there isn’t a deeper, chronic health issue that needs to be addressed. If it’s hard to match your insomnia picture to one of the descriptions above, then you may need a more comprehensive assessment for your condition.

 

This topic is further expanded in Step 6 of The 8 Steps to Natural Fertility Your Doctor Doesn’t Know About.

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SSRIs and Vulnerable Patients

 

Let’s talk about the difficult topic of those taking antidepressant drugs (ADs), in particular the Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) and the emergence or worsening of suicidal ideation in “vulnerable patients.”  However, it is still suggested that you use these drugs anyway?! Across the globe, ADs, especially SSRIs, are among the most commonly prescribed medications.

We’ve treated many folks suffering feelings of suicide. I actually think it’s a big reason why I came to Heilkunst Medicine in the first place, as my own mother had committed suicide, and I had fear that it would be a disease matrix that might show up in my own kids. I wanted that predisposition annihilated.

That was over 20 years ago and I’m happy to say that I’ve by far outlived both my parents, and life couldn’t be more pleasurable and full of meaning and purpose for me. Using Heilkunst principles to resolve this tendency for ourselves and others has been very rewarding.

By addressing the root cause, one no longer needs to manage with drugs. Yes, I’m sure you’re wondering about unbalanced brain chemistry, however, this is the level at which we’re referring. Brain chemistry can shift when you remove the blockages to cure on the sound basis of the law of nature, ‘like cures like’.

I know this because, clinically, I’ve seen tendencies like OCD, autism, schizophrenia and manic depression addressed consistently with Heilkunst Principles. I’ve also seen the reports of our patients who’ve confirmed these qualitative shifts with the endocrinologist, the NDs, the energy workers, and the live blood analysts, over the last 20 years.

If you’re interested in exploring more about the tonic roots for these conditions, you can read our blog article on the Syphilitic Genetic Miasm. This will enable you to make the link to one of our chief homeopathic remedies for suicidal ideation. It’s the image of insidious self-destructive tendencies including wanting to make an early departure from this life.

We want you to know that you’re not alone. We’ve all faced the dark nights of our own soul and that we too had to rely on this system of medicine, that causes no harm. We all deserve to make our way to home to our levity, to bask in our inner light.

Here’s the link to the article on SSRIs

Resolving My Food Cravings – A Personal Reflection

I used to suffer food cravings, too. After a day full of serving patients and my family, I used to finally sit down (well after the sun had gone down) and enjoy a morsel of dark chocolate. Often times, it was well beyond a morsel!

It was like a negative spiral as then I’d have trouble sleeping or be up a time or two to urinate in the night which did not help my feeling of being rested the next day. I was stuck in a loop of need without emotional fulfillment.

The bottom line was that the more I needed the chocolate, the less I felt rested. I was living to eat, not eating to live.

The Cancer state of mind actually craves chocolate. In fact, stay out of their way when they’re en route to their fix, as they’ll slay dragons bare handed to get it. Sound familiar?

The Cancer state of mind is one where you rescue others to the exclusion of self, are living the unlived life, and are feeling resigned that this is your fate from here on in. That was my story too. The chocolate gave me a tiny illusion, just for the moment that this wasn’t true.

It seemed like much more energy to resolve my plight outright than I had. I knew more fats would help, I also knew more tender acts of self-love and fulfillment were also key. But where to start?

That is when I took a dose of Carcinosin and Chocolatum and made a list of what I needed more of in my life. I went after “the feeling.”  If I was going to do this thing called life, long-term, how would I imagine a better state of grace for myself?  

Well the answer to this has spanned many blogs, a couple of books, and a  decade. Give us a call as we’re happy to share the answers we found with you, verbally, based on your own struggles. It’s what we do for our patients, but not to the exclusion of having solved it for ourselves first. Are you ready?

Are You Ready To Reveal Your Healthy Self For Spring?

April 2018 Newsletter

Are you ready to reveal your healthy self for spring? This month we’re looking at the states of mind and the NSOL remedies we prescribe for your timeline events, and also in your Emotional Support Droppers you receive at your initial consultation. In the sound principles of Heilkunst, the diagnosis is wholly linked directly to the cure. The letters stand for the homeopathic remedies Natrum Muriaticum, Staphysagria, Opium, and Lachesis, which correspond directly to states of grief, anger, fear and guilt (shame and resentment).

In allopathic medicine you might be prescribed an antidepressant for the emotional states above, which actually is antithetical to cure. Anti literally means “against” – the depressant being suppressive as opposed to curative. If you take the allopathic (literally “other suffering”) drug away, the symptoms are still underneath. In effect, you now have two diseases; the original disease and now the Iatrogenic (Pharma induced disease) one too.

Spring is a wonderful time to detox both physically and emotionally using homeopathics (literally “similar suffering”). What’s been long buried under the snow or through suppression can now be revealed in the light of day and cleansed, as the warmth of the sun holds us through our process. It’s a coming out party to your authentic self! The resources of herbs return to grow in the long dormant earth, renewed with vigour and nourishment to cleanse our organs of toxicity and anger.

Depending on your specific needs, we can design a physical and emotional cleanse that is just right for you. It has very little to do with the return of bikini season and more about your integrity of spirit housed in your healthy, whole body. We’re ready when you are!

Babies and Birth Control : January 2018 Newsletter

January 2018 Newsletter

This month we’re talking about babies and birth control.  Did you know that a large percentage of the population is born in September.  The most popular date is Sept. 19th with over 12,000 births alone on that day.  Source:  https://www.rd.com/culture/september-popular-birth-month/

The reason being surmised is that the frosty weather, time off over the holidays and the urge to merge just seems to take us when we’re not working so hard at our day jobs.  Perhaps we get a little free babysitting thrown into the mix, with extended family, and the next thing we know, we’re due in late August or September.

Our blogs are focused this month on “The Pill” and also “Where Do Babies Come From.”  You may be surprised that there’s a new thing or two to learn since grade 10 health class.  We aim to bring you the latest truths that often exploit the party line on health and sexuality.

Jeff and I are getting ready to head over to Cancun early February to spend some time seaside with our son Jordan.  He’s flying down to meet us from Ottawa and we’re excited to take him snorkeling in Puerto Morelos, the second largest barrier reef in the world.  We also want to show him the spawning centre for sea turtles on Isla Mujeres.  

Cozumel has a handmade chocolate factory that we love and the hot chili chocolate is mindblowing.  We will rent a ragtop beetle from another era … okay from when I was a kid and tour the island.  There’s a restaurant with mind-blowing ceviche and you can wiggle your toes in the sand while eating and watching the waves crash on the shore.  I love to swim there after a late lunch.

Our hope is that you’re all keeping warm, or perhaps escaping to a hotter spot, too, this Winter.  Either way, if you’re due in September, we’ll know that you created your own heat wherever you are.

 

What’s The “NSOL” In My Remedies All About?

2017 © by Allyson McQuinn

All of us are under stress.  Regularly we can suffer feelings of disappointment, frustration, anxiety, and guilt.  It’s pretty much a function of being alive just as having air in our lungs and a beating heart in our chest. The NSOL combination is designed to mitigate these stronger feelings and reactions.

At Arcanum Wholistic Clinic, we supply our patients with supportive dropper bottles (and timeline remedies) to help lap away at both emotional and physical distortions as a preventative measure.  These are generally prescribed on a daily basis in your NSOL (Emotional Support Dropper Bottle) with instructions to sip on as needed in your water to help mitigate issues as they present in your daily life.

2017 © by Allyson McQuinn

This is a big part of the ‘wholistic’ aspect of your treatment plan, as you go through sequential therapy using Heilkunst principles.  NSOL addresses the most common emotions that we can experience regularly as human beings, that can skew our healthy life experience.  Sometimes these emotions are also more intense during the healing reactions of certain timeline events.

This remedy helps to also soften and release of any of these accumulated feelings, in addition to events that occur in the present,  making it easier for the individual to bear the emotional load more expediently, by speeding healing.  The secondary action of this combination helps to mobilize these strong feelings for release on the curative law of nature, “like cures like”, which is homeopathic law; preventing more trauma from being incurred in the present.  

Here’s the breakdown to each rx in our NSOL combo and the links for you to read about each remedy separately if you wish:

N – Natrum Muriaticum is for grief, loss, disappointment and abandonment

S – Staphysagria is for frustration, anger, humiliation, betrayal, and feelings of being victimized.

O – Opium * or Papaver is for feelings of fear, anxiety, and lack of initiative.

L – Lachesis is for guilt, shame, resentment (violations of trust) and jealousy.

It is important to note that by taking your emotional support dropper with “NSOL”, you won’t become numb or complacent to life; they don’t stop you from feeling the richness of life’s offerings.  The height and breadth of feeling will remain intact. However, folks often tell us that they have better dominion and choice over how they want to act on those feelings after having the remedy at hand.

2017© by Allyson McQuinn

We also hear from our clients that the remedies have helped them to burn off much of the past grief, anger, fear, guilt, and resentment so that reacting to issues in the present feels more appropriate to the moment, instead of dredging up a myriad of unresolved content from their lives.  Internally, they become more self-reliant and emotionally stable, an internal beacon to one’s own self.  We know this ourselves to be true as NSOL offers a kind of liberty to be able to discern how we want to react in the present without all the historical baggage.

*Note: Just a reminder that no remedy has chemical residue from any of these bio-energetic remedies.  If they were sent off to a chemist’s lab, they’d deem them “placebo.”  We know that the high attenuations are actually effective, which speaks to the millions of patients worldwide seeking homeopathic treatment.

Too Many Cooks In The Kitchen; How to Stop Spoiling the Broth

June 2017 Newsletter

We’re all trying to balance so much! Often times, it’s not just the business, home life and kids to keep organized, and on a schedule, often times we’re having to be responsible for the collective consciousness for the entire household. Consider how often you’re asked, “Ok, so what’s next?”. Or “You should have just asked me to do that and I would have gladly helped you out.”

So many women I serve, and some men too, will cite extreme exhaustion. Not only for the actual tasks they perform at the office or at home, but  because they also feel like the CEO of operations. This unexpected job description often surprises us out of nowhere. Who put me in charge anyway? Where was that written? How do I exit this role without the whole damn ship sinking?

How did the job of  knowing what’s next fall on me? I’d never asked my husband, “What’s next?” in over a dozen years of marriage. How is it that as a reasonably intelligent woman I always felt my corpus callosum log-jammed every time? Perhaps my lesson was to learn how to engage with my own instincts and activities, leaving intellectual management to other individuals. That, actually would make sense.

In those moments, I definitely know I could use help. The first thing would be to take the task-manager role off my shoulders. When was this bestowed on me? Please supply a two page answer single spaced while I dress this roast of bison and finish prepping the potatoes. Perhaps you’ve lived this too.

While the offer to help is, in itself, an act of generosity, it can annoy the living daylights out of a Mom in a Sepia state. How many CEO’s of multinational companies can think on the spot of the detailed activities to be executed by a worker who barges into his office while he’s on the phone and also in the midst of forecasting the budget for the next annum? You see it, right? It doesn’t happen. At the very least, you make an appointment or see a more junior manager. Perhaps your spouse might ask one of the kids. Ah, not a bad idea, a kid will always tell you precisely what to do to serve them.

I recall feeling totally burnt out in the early stages of my marriage. In fact, I had the feeling that if one more person asked me what they could do, I might run my laser eyes clear through their guts while launching enough swear words at them to burn off their eyebrows. They’d grow back, right?!

I once recall trying to prepare supper while nursing an infant on the breast, with a toddler pulling all the pots and pans out on the floor, stirring a pot of rice pasta with the phone in one ear speaking to the guy rescheduling to come service the dishwasher who I had stayed home all day waiting for. It was a Friday.

At that moment, my husband walks into the kitchen having just arrived home from the office, and wants to know what he can do. The first answer that popped up to the fore is, “no clue” and then, “isn’t it obvious?” or to silently turn back and offer a tear of frustration into the pasta. This gesture alone can create a ton of animosity and then spouses wonder why dinner conversation is a little stunted and the weekly sex is dwindling.

I spent years stuffing my feelings down and taking Sepia regularly until my breast finally swelled with a 1.5 inch tumour. Among this, and other dynamics, I’d say this phenomenon cost us the marriage. It wasn’t until these very same issues started to crop up in my second marriage that I began to “get it”. The whole family plumbed solutions to help relieve me of the burden of doer and decision-maker. At the time, I was running a household, half a business, part of the farm, a kids’ camp (in the summer), writing a book and doing postgraduate research. Brutal, I know!

The summation of this post is that we finally did solve it with some creative problem solving. It took a team effort, but you can read that article here.