The Great Difficulties of Resonance
It wasn’t my intention to blog so much about the topic of resonance, but here I go again — in my writings, I have tended to portray the goal, or positive aspect of resonance, but am feeling today that I haven’t paid enough attention to the challenges that patients have in activating their desire function, or even discovering what it is in the first place.
As I wrote yesterday, the public school system is not designed to help foster this path, and in fact, generally hinders it greatly. Our curiosity, natural desires, and talents are usually so buried by the time we graduate, that it can often be quite an archeological endeavour to raise these artefacts back up into the daylight at the surface of our consciousness. Such a retrieval project generally involves slogging through many layers of suppressed emotion and conflict, which can often be a pain seemingly easier to avoid than confront. So many patients, on discussing the topic of their true desires, simply draw a big blank, and truly have no clue what it is they’d like to do with their creative energy.
A related issue to this, is that the process of re-awakening this side of themselves may also create a threat to whatever the current status quo is in their life, in terms of work, marital, or other relationships which are dependent on them acting out of their suppressed state. It can often come to a choice between the pain of keeping the true desire suppressed versus the pain of going through the profound upheavals to one or many parts of their life.
Every life is unique, and such a process of healing and discovery won’t always imply such a drama in terms of the radical changes to the outer forms of our life, but in one way, or another, our desire function, guided through resonance, always involves a process of growth, change, and continually shedding of something from the past to make space to take in a new element.
To return back to the topic of the education system for today’s conclusion, a child who is brought in for Heilkunst treatment (for ADHD, as per yesterday’s example), may not have an unrestricted opportunity for reaching their full creative and academic potential in a case where the parents are not also undergoing their own Heilkunst treatment. The status quo created by the parents’ own suppressed desire function is a very concrete barrier to the type of treatment solutions which the child may successfully engage in themselves. All this to say, that one’s current situation, including relationships and responsibilities, is a very real starting point on the quest for resonance, which cannot be leapt to as some sort of abstract ideal. The clearer the overall map is, however, the easier it is to keep taking steps in the right direction.