The Opposite of Addiction is Connection
I had another brand new patient explain to me yesterday, “You know, Dr. Ally, I’ve been putting off starting treatment with you because I was afraid you’d make me give up my use of Cannabis.” I smiled at the other end of the Skype line as I looked into his eyes. I saw both his courage and his shame vying for space on his face. I thought how beautiful he is to be able to admit such a thing to me after knowing me for less than an hour. He’ll use that courage, I ruminate.
“Actually,” I respond in the usual way, “I would encourage you to continue with your normal usage as if we’ve not met or spoken today. You’re not going to give up something until you feel something juicier emerge and rise up in your life to displace the drug use. I’m pretty confident that as your self-love, creativity and joie de vivre leaps forward through Heilkunst Medicine, you’ll naturally put more and more time and space between yourself and your vices. I’m also pretty sure that the drug use isn’t the only addiction you employ in your life.”
The patient looked back at me with shifting eyes, however, and now I could see the fear. I acknowledged, “I know you’re afraid. You wanted me to tell you to get off the drug for your health or Heilkunst won’t work, but you’ve been bucking false authority your whole life and you wanted to put me in the position to be precisely the same archetype for you telling you what to do. You’d only rebel against this, so I won’t be that person for you. I want to plumb a different relationship with you, letting you know that either way, I’m not attached to the outcome.”
I see him take a breath before I continue,” You see, I can’t just meet that old expectation. We both know that a true, permanent cure is not an outside in phenomenon. It naturally comes from the inside out. Yes, I will start the process of detox for you by putting the homeopathic remedy ‘Cannabis’ into your ‘Drainage and Organ Support Dropper’, however, it won’t be me ultimately picking up that bag of pot, rolling the joint or choosing to smoke it or not. A reinfection with the drug is entirely your own choice. However, I will send you a few resources for you to look over regarding the longer term effects are of pot on your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health are.”
<Here’s what I sent here.>
Now he was looking at me like a curious child, the fear had ebbed, “Ok, I will just try and take it day by day and see if I can try and avoid my habit.” I knew he was having trouble with the concept with the number of “trys” he’d used in his sentence, “Actually to reiterate, I don’t want you to apply your will to quit or diminish just yet as you don’t yet trust yourself. It’s ok, it will come. If you try to quit now, you’ll probably not succeed, and you’ll feel like crap, a failure again, beat on yourself and that is the last thing we want at this juncture. That is an old, karmic pattern, my friend, and it is that loop that we need to jimmy you out of first.”
He smiles, “I can see that you have trust that I can change. Why does that scare me so bad?” I feel a tears rent at the back of my eyes, “Because, Love, you’ve not felt a huge number of self-marshalled successes to date in your life. So your inner trust and faith is a little tarnished. I know because this was also true for me too. Way back awhile ago, I was just like you. I was you. I used to live to eat, now I eat to live and I’ve cultivated a life so full of self-love, beauty, connection and creativity that food no longer has the same pull for me.”
“Wow,” he exclaims, “Thanks for sharing that. I just assumed that since you treat others that you’ve always had your shit together.” I think, ‘if he only knew.’ As I look at the homeopathic prescription I’ve created for him thus far, I ask him if there is anything else he’d like me to help him detox from and I tap the keys of my computer in answer, “Coffea, Alcoholus, Tabacum, Arsenicum, Sacc. Alb., Nat. Mur., Nux Vom.,” for his other addictions to coffee, alcohol, commercial tabacco (which contains arsenic) on rare occasions, sugar, salt and I add Nux the homeopathic helper for addictions. I add all this to his Drainage and Organ Support Combo. dropper and feel a sense of completion in that realm.
His Emotional Support will have remedies for nurturing (mother’s milk) and self love (increasing his inner value), along with some carefully chosen Flower Essences which I know will gently shift his mind from lack of self-honour to a greater sense of grace. I will also look forward to addressing his timeline of emotional and physical traumas as this will decidedly get the chronic (tonic) diseases out of the way, naturally providing him with more free will.
As we finish up, he lets me know the session wasn’t as daunting as he thought. I smile wide and let him know that he did just great and that I’ll get his remedies off to our pharmacist later this afternoon and that they’ll be shipped out to him tomorrow morning.
I also let him know that he can call my office anytime and I’d be happy to connect with him should he need before our next follow-up session in a month’s time. I consciously radiate love and care towards my new patient and hold in my mind’s eye his perfect transformation with ease and gentle, but illuminating, healing reactions.
I see his future, healthy, effulgent self come more to life, animating him with new possibilities. He’ll find his inner and then outer connections. He’ll be more potent with his choices and subsequently carry them through. I see it in this new connection I’ve made with this other human being on his evolutionary path to greater freedom, his path to cure.