When To Stop Taking the Pill If You Want to Get Pregnant – and how to do the right kind of detox to get your system back to its natural state of fertility.

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Well, good morning. This is Jeff from Arcanum Wholistic Clinic. And I’m just looking at this article that’s just come across my newsfeed. It’s from a website called sheknows.com. And the title is “When To Stop Taking the Pill If You Want to Get Pregnant“. I want to point out some of the things that are said in this article. But I’m also going to add my own perspectives from what we’ve experienced in the clinic.

So if we just start going through this article, the main question it’s asking is “how to get off birth control pills and how long it might take you to conceive.” So, that’s a very common question as to how long the system takes to get back to its natural state of fertility. And if we go through this article, let’s see what it starts to say. So the author says “Fertility usually resumes within several months of discontinuing oral contraceptives”. And then further, “There is no indication that longer term use of pills affects fertility”. And then I’ll just read this one highlighted part here too, “Another fact you should know is if you do conceive quickly after going off birth control, it should not impact the health of your pregnancy.”

So the general gist of this article is that you come off the birth control pill, and within a reasonable amount of time, your body should get back to its natural state of fertility. And it doesn’t say too much more beyond that. It just seems like it’s a natural process, once your body gets off the pill it knows how to go back. But it’s kind of leaving a lot out. At least from my clinical experience, we’ve had far too many couples that they will come off the birth control pill, because they want to start a family, but then they find that’s just not happening. They’re not able to conceive—not even a few months later. But it just seems to be a great difficulty that now they can’t conceive. And just to kind of speak to the idea, the allopathic medical idea that’s behind this. It’s very interesting because when it comes to, there’s certainly a lot of, let’s say, emergency medical procedures, life saving procedures, which are virtually miraculous. But the problem is… (the western medical system is really excellent at those things) But when it comes to more kind of chronic health issues, long term health issues, their philosophy just doesn’t hold up. And this article really highlights that. Where the idea is like, “Oh, yeah, we’re going to come in with our medicines or surgical procedures. And then we’re going to do what we have to do on the medical side.” And then just somehow, they don’t really have much of an understanding or an explanation. Somehow the body just supposedly kind of gets back to its natural state after the medical intervention. And that’s, as I say, in our experience is just simply not true. We have far too many cases of difficulty conceiving after birth control pills. And we have to get into our very specific protocols, homeopathic formulas and ways of detoxing, to properly get the body to release all the residues of the birth control pill. And then finally, after that, it’s able to get back to its natural state of fertility. But it’s not this kind of an unexamined or kind of mysterious thing that somehow the body just does it. We need to follow natural medical principles to restore the body after the birth control pill.

So if you’re, by the way, if you’re in the process of getting on your own fertility path, trying to find the natural ways, if you haven’t downloaded it already you can get our book, The 8 Steps To Natural Fertility. And you can download that for free at NaturalFertilityBook.com. And when we go through even this particular article, this idea of detoxing from the birth control pill, we even do touch on that in the book as well. And here’s the important thing as well. It’s not just a general detox. There’s lots of ways people know how to do a detox. To eat healthy and clean up their diet and do more some more specific organ detox. I know there are kits and health food stores and things like that. But the thing about each birth control pill, each one is unique. So what we do, as far as the homeopathic detoxing of that or clearing that from the system, we need to match the specific homeopathic detox formula to the exact drug—the exact birth control pill that was taken. So it’s not just a matter of healthy clean living and healthy diet and doing a general flushing the system, a general detox. But there is a very specific form of detox for each specific birth control pill. And that’s exactly what we do when you’re coming through fertility treatment with us.

But anyways, if you’re beginning to research about these things and you’re wanting to get yourself on the path to natural fertility (all the things that you can do), we of course give many steps and things that you can follow for yourself at home. Again, that’s at our book. You can download it—NaturalFertilityBook.com.

Otherwise, just to wrap up with this article. It puts out a general idea, a general question. That is, what’s the time frame? But it’s not at all specific. Well, I guess this is what it’s like for anyone. When you don’t know the answer to something or you don’t really know that there is something that even needs to be answered, you don’t really address that. So that’s the problem with this article. It asks the important question, How long after the pill so you can conceive? But it doesn’t answer to actually how you do that—how you properly detox the body.

So thank you for listening. This is Jeff from Arcanum Wholistic Clinic and we’ll see you again soon.

Why male fertility needs greater attention

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Well, good afternoon. This is Jeff from Arcanum Wholistic Clinic. And I just wanted to take a few minutes that I have free this afternoon and share this article that came through on my newsfeed. I just have it right here on screen, I couldn’t figure out how to get myself on screen and the article on screen at the same time; it seems it was an either/or. So here we go. I’m going to just go through some of the points of this article and make my comments on them.

This article just came out a few days ago. It’s called “Why male fertility needs greater attention”. And here’s the subtitle, it says, “With sperm counts falling, the need for research into both the causes of treatments for male infertility has never been greater.” And I’ll just give you a spoiler alert. There’s kind of a clue right there in the subtitle that this article may be good for identifying the problem, but it’s not very good at all for giving useful solution. So let’s just go through at least find the good points in this article that we could use and then where we would turn to get some better practical advice for what to do for male fertility.

So right off the bat, that article starts with this great opening. It says,

“Mention the word fertility and most people immediately think of women and moms. Yet the reality is very different. Male infertility is the cause of problems in heterosexual couples in half of all cases.”

So that’s a very important statistic right off the bat. It’s essentially, what it’s saying is that when it comes to infertility, it pretty much breaks down to 50/50 as whether the cause is coming from the male side, or the female side of the couple. And here, let’s get a little more specific into the statistics it gives. On the male side, it says,

“A landmark study of thousands of men over 40 years, published in 2017 by the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, showed a significant decline of more than 50 percent in sperm counts in Western men, with no sign of this decline leveling off.”

OK, so that’s quite an alarming statistic. But as we see, as we go through the article, they don’t really have much of a good recommendation for what to do about it. Other than kind of a vague general call for more research, or being careful with your lifestyle or something like that. But it’s, as we’ll see it, it’s not very good advice. And I will point you to some better advice as we get through this article. So what does this paragraph, here it says, “The study provided conclusive evidence of the decline in sperm count, but it did not seek to identify the causes.” So that seems a problem right off the bat. It’s fine to know there’s a problem. But we want not only to know the causes, but also their solution. Even now, the reasons for the fall remain elusive. There is some evidence that it is caused by environmental factors such as exposure to chemicals through what we eat and drink, or the poor quality of the air we breathe in towns and cities. OK, well, that’s kind of almost like a truism in the sense, but it’s a little bit vague. We all kind of know we have toxicity and we have some problems, but it’s still not really very helpful there.

Here it’s talking about, I’m just scrolling down here, it’s talking about some of the key parameters that are being measured in sperm health and identifies three, that names them the “sperm count”, the sperm “motility”, ie, “can they swim”, and “morphology”, or “are they the right shape”. And, actually, this is a very interesting point here, just scrolling down some more. This is actually, and we’ve seen this is true in the clinic that for some reason, disproportionate amount of attention goes to the woman in fertility cases, and little to none in the men. Now, of course, sometimes a couple will come in where they know there’s a sperm count problem, or something like that, that had testing. And then they kind of will focus on the men. But generally, they don’t go there all too often, even though as we know, from the statistic above, it’s pretty much a 50/50 deal that’s going on. So what it says here, I wanted to read to you,

“The woman actually acts as the therapy for the men’s problem. We are giving an invasive procedure to a person who doesn’t need it, in order to treat another person. That doesn’t happen in any other branch of medicine.”

So yeah, it’s certainly a very interesting phenomena that’s going on with this disproportionate focus on the woman and infertility cases.
So here if I scroll down to “What factors affect male fertility?”, “focused on sperm biology and drug discovery for male subfertility.” So I just wanted to highlight that because, of course, in the in the Western medical model, all attention goes into drug therapies and other invasive therapies, which of course, are sometimes necessary, but in our experience, we get a lot of success in couples using our natural methods for fertility long before anyone even needs to think about going to drugs. So it’s certainly our advice to not rush to drugs, of course, use them when they’re absolutely necessary. But yeah, we’ve had much more success on the natural route. And actually, if you haven’t yet seen our book, you can download our fertility book for free. We have that available at www.NaturalFertilityBook.com. You can get your free copy there and it basically gives all the approaches that we use for enhancing natural fertility.

So just to go further down in the article, it says here,

“Having problems with ejaculation can impact fertility if sperm cannot reach the egg for it to be fertilised. Examples of ejaculatory disorders include premature ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation, where semen is ejaculated into the bladder, as well as failure to ejaculate.”

So on this point, so that’s fine, it identifies the problem, but as to the whole scope of this article isn’t really offering a solution. And again, if you turn to our Natural Fertility book, and specifically in Chapter 8, we give some very specific outlines as what’s going on in basically sexual health for the whole couple, and how these problems can largely be eliminated, again, through the natural methods and again, you can find our book for free at NaturalFertilityBook.com.

And what does it say here, “Male fertility needs to be made a greater priority.” So it says, “Healthy lifestyle choices are among the most important and manageable ways to improve fertility.” Of course, we agree with that, although in this article, it doesn’t really give you any specifics. I mean, it talks about some some general lifestyle factors use of drugs or alcohol or things like that. But we need to get more specific. And again, in Chapter 1 of our book, you can find it, naturalfertilitybook.com. We start you on a path that gets you into all the natural lifestyle factors that bring that fertility into the range that you want and need it to be.

And finally, I do like the the closing statement in this article. “Men,” it says, “also need to be aware that just as they share responsibility with women for birth control, they cannot leave fertility concerns to women. Men can also be the problem.” As we know from the opening of this article, it’s pretty much a 50/50 split statistically. So I just wanted to point out some of the good, some of the bad, from this article. It’s very good at identifying the problem; not so much at the solutions. And as I have here in our comments, you can go right to our website here, our NaturalFertilityBook.com. If you haven’t already, you can download a free copy of our 8 Steps To Natural Fertility. And it really outlines all the practical things that you need to do. It’s not just identifying that there’s a problem then maybe there’s some things you can do about it, but it’s actually a very step by step process.

So anyways, thank you for spending this few minutes with me. I’m going to go back to the regular business of the day. But this article really jumped out at me and I wanted to point out what was useful, what was not so useful on it. So have a good rest for your afternoon. See you later.

Selfish Or Self-Care; Where Is The Healthy Boundary?

Therapeutic education is the third jurisdiction of Heilkunst Medicine. When we’re engaged with patients, we can address the underlying cause with the homeopathic principles, however, to help prevent a reinfection of that old state of mind, the precipitating thought-ware and choices wrought often need to change.

Those old patterns are often the hardest to break. I can’t count how many times an individual, especially women, I work with will state, “I can’t do that, that would be considered selfish.”  As women, especially, we’re fundamentally conditioned to serve others before we take a moment to serve our own needs.

I’m often surprised when referring to a woman taking a little hammock time to simply rest or allocating 20 – 30 minutes away from their family to journal, meditate, write, read, do some yoga, or take a bath is frowned upon. I’m surprised at how often self-care is interpreted as selfish.

When my cup overfloweth, then I’m in a much better position to serve others without an ounce of reservation. By serving my basic needs first, then I can more easily suspend my goal oriented agenda to be present with my children, husband, friends, and patients.

I think where we’re getting caught up is in distinguishing between the selfishness of a narcissist personality as opposed to simple self-love and care. Let’s take a moment to define both and perhaps it will be more telling for you to first distinguish the difference between the harm caused by a narcissist and the love of a self-carer. Perhaps, then, out of knowledge you can give yourself the permission to provide yourself with overtures of generosity.

Narcissistic Character Type

As per Dr. Patricia Frisch, “Narcissistic Character Types can be quite self-engrossed and self-maximizing. His predominant and consistent focus is on his own needs, concerns and wishes. He is an excellent self-promoter who loves the limelight and vies to be seen as special. He expects his needs to take center stage in his relationship to others. He is often upset if those needs are not mirrored perfectly by his partners, friends, or colleagues.”

Arrogance and Selfishness

The motivation of the selfish narcissist is to seek grandiosity and admiration from others. They engage in activities that are hurtful to others based on their phallic drive to be seen. Often these individuals were emasculated as children and are quite fragile underneath their self-centred exterior. They will quite often exhibit fantasies of their own beauty, success, and brilliance in their work and relationships.

Because this characterological type lacks empathy, their personality disorder believes that they’re special or superior, seeking alliances only with those who can affirm their faulty image of themselves. They will generally stop at nothing that enhances their self-esteem. These individuals can’t tolerate defeat, criticism or any feelings of humiliation which cause them to sublimate their ill state into paranoia, antisocial behaviors, and even psychosis.


As per Psychology Today (‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’) the symptoms of a narcissistic personality need to qualify for five or more of the following:

  • Exaggerates own importance
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal romance
  • Believes he or she is special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions
  • Requires constant attention and admiration from others
  • Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
  • Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals
  • Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy
  • Is often envious of others or believes other people are envious of him or her
  • Shows arrogant behaviors and attitudes

It is important to note that 50 – 75% of narcissists are male. Also, when teenagers are indicating traits listed above, they’re not necessarily towing the line to becoming narcissistic. Teenagers are often trying on different characterological types in order to effectively separate from their parents to strike a greater self-love and autonomy.


Certain inherited criteria have to be met in order for a person to develop bonafide selfish, narcissistic tendencies. These can include all/or some of the predisposition to Medhorrinum Genetic Miasm, Lycopodium Constitution and the Chthonic Fear State Veratrum Album. We’ve included the links to our other blogs on these states for your further research.


Thankfully with Heilkunst Medicine and Orgonomy were able to treat the underlying cause. Of these states of mind using the law of nature like cures like. Those formerly narcissistic character types do develop less tendencies to self-aggrandize, developing more empathy, warmth, and generosity.

Healthy Self-Care

Hopefully, you can quickly identify that you’re not in fact a selfish narcissist which then allows you to gain full dominion over your self-care. It takes an abundant nature to fully step into the fabric of your birthright. Longevity of spirit in this human organism takes many regular deposits of love, romance, and plenitude.

If it’s still hard for you, perhaps think of your car’s regular maintenance or what about your savings; if you don’t make regular deposits, you wind up deplete without anything left for your retirement. Here are some ways that you can lovingly bestow more self-care on yourself:

Self-Care Ideas For Your Mind

  • Start a gratitude jar for a year – every day write on a piece of paper something you feel thankful for. On New Year’s Day gift yourself the time to read them all.
  • Get rid of the stuff on your list that you don’t really want to do – yup, just draw a line through it, or even better rip it up and dispose of it.
  • Look at your decision making – decide more life choices through your heart instead of your head. If the thing gives you butterflies or little kid excitement, then go for it … if not reject it!
  • Schedule in regular hammock time – set a timer if you have to for 30 minutes of cloud or star gazing.
  • Take a different route – perhaps take that gorgeous parkway by the water instead of the freeway to work.
  • Juicy mindfulness – take some time to really engage with that piece of fruit you’re about to eat, that bird in the tree, the sunset or even brushing your teeth. Feelings, functions, and sensations are a big aspect to being wholly present to your human experience.
  • Playtime – find time to hang with your kids, niece, or nephew. If they’re too busy, find time to skip rope, go to the park with your book, play spontaneously at the park or dance in your living room.
  • Fix something that’s been bugging you – take a moment to change that light bulb, fix that loose button, floss your teeth, or oil that squeaky door.
  • Do a mini meditation – on the bus or in your favorite chair, even a couple of minutes focused on your breathing, thoughts, feelings, or sensations can reset the most harried of days.
  • Happiness infusion – take a bath, make a cup of tea, light a candle or some incense, or simply make a list of the things that make you feel happy.
  • De-clutter – bundle up stuff in your midst or in your closet that no longer bring you pleasure and take them to the local consignment store.
  • Unplug for an hour – ask your hubby or in-laws to take the kids for an hour so that you can go switch to “airplane” mode. Resist the temptation to look at your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram accounts. Just be.
  • Buck your comfort zone – strike up a conversation with someone you’ve never met on the bus, or try putting on your headphones and listening to meaningful podcast.
  • Mute negative folk in your social media feeds – you don’t have to unfriend them, they’ll just stop showing up with their hate speech injecting poison into your day.

Self-Care Ideas For Your Body

  • Oxygenate with deep breathing – trying sighing out loud, breathing out from your hair follicles to your toes, let the in-breathe naturally revitalize you by coming back in naturally. Notice how you’re being breathed!
  • Get your jiggy on – dance, sing, play, stretch, and have juicy connected sex with your beloved partner or with yourself. Take your time!
  • Pace – head outside for a bike ride, walk in nature, or do some interval training depending on your blood type.
  • Do a cleanse – find a day to do a day long cleanse using
    • greens/chia seeds
    • lemon juice, maple syrup, cayenne powder (Master’s Cleanse)
    • naturally fermented pickle or sauerkraut juice (no vinegar/sugar)
  • Start a Keto/Paleo diet, cutting out all grains and sugars while respecting your blood type diet.
  • Skin brush before bed and and when you wake up. Use a natural bristle brush with circular motions.
  • Go for Bowen – a soft tissue release protocol, like a massage without bullying the body’s musculature.
  • Sun bathe – we know that 20 minutes of sunlight a day is highly beneficial. At first you may have to start in the shade and acclimatize to direct sun. If you’re in a northern climate in the winter, supplement with 2,000 IU’s of vitamin D3 per day
  • Consume naturally fermented foods – kombucha, water kefir, naturally fermented sauerkrauts or pickles, like Strub’s or Bubbies, are highly recommended. Dr. Mercola sent his homemade kraut off to the lab to find over 90 trillion probiotics in a tablespoon.
  • Introduce essential oils to your regimen – take a mini-course on-line or read one of our many books to familiarize yourself with essential oils and how to use them to improve your physical and mental well-being.
  • Introduce flower essences  to your regimen – take a mini-course on-line or read one of our many books to familiarize yourself with essential oils and how to use them to improve your physical and mental well-being.
  • Take a nap – enough said!
  • Laugh yourself silly – watch some crazy cat videos, bloopers, or read some Dilbert or Calvin and Hobbes. Some Netflix offerings with good comedians are fun too. We also enjoy the podcast, No Such Thing As a Fish.
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Self-Care For The Soul

  • Ask your inner child … – ask the little kid in you what they’d like to do today?  Perhaps they’d like to take you off to the library, a new coffee shop, museum, art gallery, or go for a walk by the river.
  • Look for beauty – find ten unexpected beautiful things on your way to or home from work.
  • Meditate on your feelings – sit for 5 to 10 minutes and focus solely on how you’re feeling in the moment. You can even do this at work in the bathroom stall if necessary.
  • Journal – check out Julia Cameron’s ‘Morning Pages’ and sit down with a dedicated notebook. Write for 5 to10 minutes without an ounce of judgment.
  • Find the healthy radiators in your midst – find resonant folk to hang out with who radiate love, enthusiasm, and positivity. Eliminate the drains on your mental/emotional economy who suck you down their proverbial toilet with pessimism, negatively robbing you of your energy.
  • Love on an animal – hang out with your cat on the couch or ask a friend if you can take their dog for a walk to the park. Petting or stroking an animal can be very beneficial for the soul.
  • Get some lovin’ – ask 3 friends to tell you what they love about you.
  • Capture your goals – find some time to write down the 25 things that you love to engage with where you lose all track of time. Review them and see if you can fashion a side business out of any of them. Many successful entrepreneurs started this way!  Read the book, The Map by Boni Lonsburry for more on this.
  • Home spa day – take a day on the weekend, or perhaps call in sick, and enjoy a mental health day. Don your robe, take a long bath with a bath-bomb, give yourself a pedi and or mani, and a facial with all natural products.
  • Take a mini-staycation – tell folks that you’ll be away and then plan to be totally spontaneous with yourself the whole weekend.

Self-Care Mini Bites

  • Take a moment to connect in with yourself even in the midst of a conversation – watch your inclination to over commit. Set more healthy boundaries around yourself and your time. Give yourself permission to say no or tell a white lie to protect yourself.
  • Delight in small pleasures – watch the sunset until it’s done, observe a baby with their loving parent, notice the water on your skin when you wash your hands,  cut a wildflower and bring it inside for beside your bed.
  • See if your holding your breath – practice more mindful deep breathing
  • Grab a nourishing drink –  perhaps skip the coffee or tea and get a more energizing probiotic drink like kombucha or water kefir. Think of it like an investment in your microbiome bank!

My hope is that you can see more clearly how it’s not even possible for you to suffer selfish, narcissistic tendencies and that self-care is necessary to promoting more love and life in you. Only human beings who are wholly full of self-nurturance, lacking in perpetual stress, can truly care for others in their midst in a whole fashion, without creating more symptoms or negative side-effects.

As women, and men too, it is important that we invest in our mental/emotional and physical self-care so that our cups can truly overfloweth in the face of everyday stress and challenges. Self-care enables us to remain deeply centred, with a bolstered sense of autonomy, in the face of external tumultuousness exhibited in the media, allopathy (Big Pharma), political arenas, and economics too. When we have a sound investment of self, we can pretty much weather any storm in our midst.