Selfish Or Self-Care; Where Is The Healthy Boundary?

Therapeutic education is the third jurisdiction of Heilkunst Medicine. When we’re engaged with patients, we can address the underlying cause with the homeopathic principles, however, to help prevent a reinfection of that old state of mind, the precipitating thought-ware and choices wrought often need to change.

Those old patterns are often the hardest to break. I can’t count how many times an individual, especially women, I work with will state, “I can’t do that, that would be considered selfish.”  As women, especially, we’re fundamentally conditioned to serve others before we take a moment to serve our own needs.

I’m often surprised when referring to a woman taking a little hammock time to simply rest or allocating 20 – 30 minutes away from their family to journal, meditate, write, read, do some yoga, or take a bath is frowned upon. I’m surprised at how often self-care is interpreted as selfish.

When my cup overfloweth, then I’m in a much better position to serve others without an ounce of reservation. By serving my basic needs first, then I can more easily suspend my goal oriented agenda to be present with my children, husband, friends, and patients.

I think where we’re getting caught up is in distinguishing between the selfishness of a narcissist personality as opposed to simple self-love and care. Let’s take a moment to define both and perhaps it will be more telling for you to first distinguish the difference between the harm caused by a narcissist and the love of a self-carer. Perhaps, then, out of knowledge you can give yourself the permission to provide yourself with overtures of generosity.

Narcissistic Character Type

As per Dr. Patricia Frisch, “Narcissistic Character Types can be quite self-engrossed and self-maximizing. His predominant and consistent focus is on his own needs, concerns and wishes. He is an excellent self-promoter who loves the limelight and vies to be seen as special. He expects his needs to take center stage in his relationship to others. He is often upset if those needs are not mirrored perfectly by his partners, friends, or colleagues.”

Arrogance and Selfishness

The motivation of the selfish narcissist is to seek grandiosity and admiration from others. They engage in activities that are hurtful to others based on their phallic drive to be seen. Often these individuals were emasculated as children and are quite fragile underneath their self-centred exterior. They will quite often exhibit fantasies of their own beauty, success, and brilliance in their work and relationships.

Because this characterological type lacks empathy, their personality disorder believes that they’re special or superior, seeking alliances only with those who can affirm their faulty image of themselves. They will generally stop at nothing that enhances their self-esteem. These individuals can’t tolerate defeat, criticism or any feelings of humiliation which cause them to sublimate their ill state into paranoia, antisocial behaviors, and even psychosis.

Symptoms

As per Psychology Today (‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’) the symptoms of a narcissistic personality need to qualify for five or more of the following:

  • Exaggerates own importance
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence or ideal romance
  • Believes he or she is special and can only be understood by other special people or institutions
  • Requires constant attention and admiration from others
  • Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
  • Takes advantage of others to reach his or her own goals
  • Disregards the feelings of others, lacks empathy
  • Is often envious of others or believes other people are envious of him or her
  • Shows arrogant behaviors and attitudes

It is important to note that 50 – 75% of narcissists are male. Also, when teenagers are indicating traits listed above, they’re not necessarily towing the line to becoming narcissistic. Teenagers are often trying on different characterological types in order to effectively separate from their parents to strike a greater self-love and autonomy.

Causes

Certain inherited criteria have to be met in order for a person to develop bonafide selfish, narcissistic tendencies. These can include all/or some of the predisposition to Medhorrinum Genetic Miasm, Lycopodium Constitution and the Chthonic Fear State Veratrum Album. We’ve included the links to our other blogs on these states for your further research.

Treatment

Thankfully with Heilkunst Medicine and Orgonomy were able to treat the underlying cause. Of these states of mind using the law of nature like cures like. Those formerly narcissistic character types do develop less tendencies to self-aggrandize, developing more empathy, warmth, and generosity.

Healthy Self-Care

Hopefully, you can quickly identify that you’re not in fact a selfish narcissist which then allows you to gain full dominion over your self-care. It takes an abundant nature to fully step into the fabric of your birthright. Longevity of spirit in this human organism takes many regular deposits of love, romance, and plenitude.

If it’s still hard for you, perhaps think of your car’s regular maintenance or what about your savings; if you don’t make regular deposits, you wind up deplete without anything left for your retirement. Here are some ways that you can lovingly bestow more self-care on yourself:

Self-Care Ideas For Your Mind

  • Start a gratitude jar for a year – every day write on a piece of paper something you feel thankful for. On New Year’s Day gift yourself the time to read them all.
  • Get rid of the stuff on your list that you don’t really want to do – yup, just draw a line through it, or even better rip it up and dispose of it.
  • Look at your decision making – decide more life choices through your heart instead of your head. If the thing gives you butterflies or little kid excitement, then go for it … if not reject it!
  • Schedule in regular hammock time – set a timer if you have to for 30 minutes of cloud or star gazing.
  • Take a different route – perhaps take that gorgeous parkway by the water instead of the freeway to work.
  • Juicy mindfulness – take some time to really engage with that piece of fruit you’re about to eat, that bird in the tree, the sunset or even brushing your teeth. Feelings, functions, and sensations are a big aspect to being wholly present to your human experience.
  • Playtime – find time to hang with your kids, niece, or nephew. If they’re too busy, find time to skip rope, go to the park with your book, play spontaneously at the park or dance in your living room.
  • Fix something that’s been bugging you – take a moment to change that light bulb, fix that loose button, floss your teeth, or oil that squeaky door.
  • Do a mini meditation – on the bus or in your favorite chair, even a couple of minutes focused on your breathing, thoughts, feelings, or sensations can reset the most harried of days.
  • Happiness infusion – take a bath, make a cup of tea, light a candle or some incense, or simply make a list of the things that make you feel happy.
  • De-clutter – bundle up stuff in your midst or in your closet that no longer bring you pleasure and take them to the local consignment store.
  • Unplug for an hour – ask your hubby or in-laws to take the kids for an hour so that you can go switch to “airplane” mode. Resist the temptation to look at your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram accounts. Just be.
  • Buck your comfort zone – strike up a conversation with someone you’ve never met on the bus, or try putting on your headphones and listening to meaningful podcast.
  • Mute negative folk in your social media feeds – you don’t have to unfriend them, they’ll just stop showing up with their hate speech injecting poison into your day.

Self-Care Ideas For Your Body

  • Oxygenate with deep breathing – trying sighing out loud, breathing out from your hair follicles to your toes, let the in-breathe naturally revitalize you by coming back in naturally. Notice how you’re being breathed!
  • Get your jiggy on – dance, sing, play, stretch, and have juicy connected sex with your beloved partner or with yourself. Take your time!
  • Pace – head outside for a bike ride, walk in nature, or do some interval training depending on your blood type.
  • Do a cleanse – find a day to do a day long cleanse using
    • greens/chia seeds
    • lemon juice, maple syrup, cayenne powder (Master’s Cleanse)
    • naturally fermented pickle or sauerkraut juice (no vinegar/sugar)
  • Start a Keto/Paleo diet, cutting out all grains and sugars while respecting your blood type diet.
  • Skin brush before bed and and when you wake up. Use a natural bristle brush with circular motions.
  • Go for Bowen – a soft tissue release protocol, like a massage without bullying the body’s musculature.
  • Sun bathe – we know that 20 minutes of sunlight a day is highly beneficial. At first you may have to start in the shade and acclimatize to direct sun. If you’re in a northern climate in the winter, supplement with 2,000 IU’s of vitamin D3 per day
  • Consume naturally fermented foods – kombucha, water kefir, naturally fermented sauerkrauts or pickles, like Strub’s or Bubbies, are highly recommended. Dr. Mercola sent his homemade kraut off to the lab to find over 90 trillion probiotics in a tablespoon.
  • Introduce essential oils to your regimen – take a mini-course on-line or read one of our many books to familiarize yourself with essential oils and how to use them to improve your physical and mental well-being.
  • Introduce flower essences  to your regimen – take a mini-course on-line or read one of our many books to familiarize yourself with essential oils and how to use them to improve your physical and mental well-being.
  • Take a nap – enough said!
  • Laugh yourself silly – watch some crazy cat videos, bloopers, or read some Dilbert or Calvin and Hobbes. Some Netflix offerings with good comedians are fun too. We also enjoy the podcast, No Such Thing As a Fish.
Photo by lifescript “Eve Ensler” https://flic.kr/p/8NvfHx

Self-Care For The Soul

  • Ask your inner child … – ask the little kid in you what they’d like to do today?  Perhaps they’d like to take you off to the library, a new coffee shop, museum, art gallery, or go for a walk by the river.
  • Look for beauty – find ten unexpected beautiful things on your way to or home from work.
  • Meditate on your feelings – sit for 5 to 10 minutes and focus solely on how you’re feeling in the moment. You can even do this at work in the bathroom stall if necessary.
  • Journal – check out Julia Cameron’s ‘Morning Pages’ and sit down with a dedicated notebook. Write for 5 to10 minutes without an ounce of judgment.
  • Find the healthy radiators in your midst – find resonant folk to hang out with who radiate love, enthusiasm, and positivity. Eliminate the drains on your mental/emotional economy who suck you down their proverbial toilet with pessimism, negatively robbing you of your energy.
  • Love on an animal – hang out with your cat on the couch or ask a friend if you can take their dog for a walk to the park. Petting or stroking an animal can be very beneficial for the soul.
  • Get some lovin’ – ask 3 friends to tell you what they love about you.
  • Capture your goals – find some time to write down the 25 things that you love to engage with where you lose all track of time. Review them and see if you can fashion a side business out of any of them. Many successful entrepreneurs started this way!  Read the book, The Map by Boni Lonsburry for more on this.
  • Home spa day – take a day on the weekend, or perhaps call in sick, and enjoy a mental health day. Don your robe, take a long bath with a bath-bomb, give yourself a pedi and or mani, and a facial with all natural products.
  • Take a mini-staycation – tell folks that you’ll be away and then plan to be totally spontaneous with yourself the whole weekend.

Self-Care Mini Bites

  • Take a moment to connect in with yourself even in the midst of a conversation – watch your inclination to over commit. Set more healthy boundaries around yourself and your time. Give yourself permission to say no or tell a white lie to protect yourself.
  • Delight in small pleasures – watch the sunset until it’s done, observe a baby with their loving parent, notice the water on your skin when you wash your hands,  cut a wildflower and bring it inside for beside your bed.
  • See if your holding your breath – practice more mindful deep breathing
  • Grab a nourishing drink –  perhaps skip the coffee or tea and get a more energizing probiotic drink like kombucha or water kefir. Think of it like an investment in your microbiome bank!

My hope is that you can see more clearly how it’s not even possible for you to suffer selfish, narcissistic tendencies and that self-care is necessary to promoting more love and life in you. Only human beings who are wholly full of self-nurturance, lacking in perpetual stress, can truly care for others in their midst in a whole fashion, without creating more symptoms or negative side-effects.

As women, and men too, it is important that we invest in our mental/emotional and physical self-care so that our cups can truly overfloweth in the face of everyday stress and challenges. Self-care enables us to remain deeply centred, with a bolstered sense of autonomy, in the face of external tumultuousness exhibited in the media, allopathy (Big Pharma), political arenas, and economics too. When we have a sound investment of self, we can pretty much weather any storm in our midst.

References

https://orgonomictherapy.com/2014/08/22/narcissism/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder

https://www.amazon.ca/Unfolding-Essential-Self-Orgastic-Potency-ebook/dp/B00GBI3CNC

https://www.amazon.ca/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Ddigital-text&field-keywords=reich+character+analysis

https://www.amazon.ca/Man-Trap-Elsworth-F-Baker-ebook/dp/B01MQW3UZW/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1505337803&sr=1-1&keywords=baker+man+in+the+trap

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/45-simple-self-care-practices-for-a-healthy-mind-body-and-soul/

Three Facts You Need To Know About Dental Mercury, By Amanda Just and John Kall, DMD of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxicology (IAOMT)

This article has been reprinted with permission from worldmercuryproject.org.

1. All silver-colored dental fillings, also called amalgams, contain approximately 50% mercury, and dental mercury is still being used in the USA.

In 2013, the United Nations Environment Programme (UNEP) formalized a global convention to reduce mercury usage, which includes initiatives to phase down the use of dental mercury.  The UNEP mercury convention will come into force on August 16, 2017, and as part of this effort, the European Union is taking action on dental mercury.  A new EU mercury regulation plans to prohibit the use of amalgam for vulnerable populations (pregnant or breastfeeding women, children under 15 years old) and provide for discussion about the feasibility of ending dental amalgam use in the European Union by 2030.

Prior to the 2017 ratification of UNEP’s mercury treaty, other countries had already taken protective actions against dental mercury.  For example, Norway and Sweden have banned dental amalgam, and Denmark, Estonia, Finland, Italy, the Netherlands, and Japan have reportedly limited its use to less than 5% of tooth restorations.  However, mercury fillings are still used on about 45% of direct dental restorations worldwide, including in the United States.

All silver colored dental fillings, which are still being used in the USA, contain about 50% mercury.

2. Mercury vapor is released from these fillings into the human body, and this dental mercury has been linked to health risks.

Mercury vapor is continuously emitted from dental amalgam which means that people are directly exposed to the mercury in their mouths.  The output of mercury vapor can be intensified by the number of fillings and other activities, such as chewing, teeth-grinding, and the consumption of hot liquids.  Mercury is also known to be released during the placement, replacement, and removal of dental mercury amalgam fillings.

Scientific researchers have associated this mercury in amalgam fillings with Alzheimer’s disease, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (Lou Gehrig’s disease), antibiotic resistance, anxiety, autism spectrum disorders, autoimmune disorders/immunodeficiency, cardiovascular problems, chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, hearing loss, infertility, kidney disease, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, and an array of other health problems. Click here to learn more about the potential health risks of dental mercury.

3. Safety measures can reduce the amount of mercury vapor released during the removal of amalgam fillings.

Some patients require the removal of silver amalgam fillings due to device failure, while others opt for the removal of silver amalgam fillings because of cosmetic purposes (white-colored fillings match the teeth better) or because they prefer to have dental fillings that do not contain mercury. However, the process of drilling out amalgam fillings liberates quantities of mercury vapor and fine particulates that can be inhaled and absorbed through the lungs, and this is potentially harmful to patients, dentists, dental workers, and their fetuses.

The application of specific safety measures can reduce the potential negative health outcomes of mercury exposure during the amalgam removal process.  It is crucial for patients to know what these safety measures are so that they can insure these practices are implemented during the removal of amalgam fillings.

These writers co-authored a chapter about the health risks of dental mercury that was published in a textbook about epigenetics from Springer in 2016.

Amanda Just, MS:  Ms. Just is the Program Director of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxiciology.  She is also a freelance writer and dental consumer who has shared her writings about the impact of dental mercury amalgam fillings with the United Nations Environment Programme, the U.S. Department of State, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA), and various NGOs.

John Kall, DMD:  Dr. Kall serves as the Chairman of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxiocology’s Board of Directors.  He is a member of the American Dental Association, a fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry (AGD), Past President of the KY Chapter of the AGD, a member of the Louisville Dental Society, and a member of the Kentucky Dental Association.

Spring Cleanse for Mind and Body

What baggage are you holding onto? No, really–I’m speaking to you.

If you aim your gaze down into your belly, what is it that you’re feeling? Are you harbouring grief and sadness down there? What about loss or disappointment? Are you feeling pissed that you thought you’d be in such a better place in your life by now? Perhaps you’re afraid that you’re never going to get to your goals.

What if there was a way to dump all this physical and emotional content overboard without having to hash it out verbally. What if we could give you homeopathic remedies to lighten your load while also helping you detox from all that digestive, bloating, gassy stuff going on in your belly at the same time.

Perhaps you’ve been having more congestion and headaches than usual and you’re wondering if it has to do with the toxicity you’ve been carrying. Are you ready to let that go too?

Spring is a wonderful time to purge both physically and emotionally. Herbs come back at your local market, bitter herbs are growing like weeds and we’ve got homeopathic remedies to help you achieve your goals and obtain better health within a week of taking them.

Read our articles in this month’s Newsletter to find out more or simply book a FREE, no obligation, Fact Finding Session to find out how we can tailor a Springtime cleanse just for you.

 

 

 

How To Honour the Momma Who’s About To Give Birth

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My friend, Kate Varsava, Halifax Birthworker, Wombyn’s Summit Leader and Musician prepares for her own birth in the company of her beloved friends, yogis and fellow birthworkers.  I was so inspired by her tale of being honoured with care, love and beauty that I asked to share her Instagram post with you.

 

 

“Yesterday my house filled up. Yesterday I was filled up.

From my bath, filled with warm water, rose petals, and lavender oil, where I was receiving a massage from the loving maiden hands of my sweet friend‘s daughter, I could hear the joyful chatter of wimyn gathering and organizing themselves. I was adorned with a gorgeous fresh flower crown made by my sister, had my hair fixed up, put on my precious jewels…when I emerged from my room, drawn by singing voices, I found my kitchen full of food, my living room full of flowers and ladies (and baby daddy), and my whole house full of beautiful, buzzing, nurturing energy, beaming faces, radiant beings.

I was passed a cup of Guatemalan cacao, sat on a thrown, and treated like a queen. Tender recollections of how we each met, supportive expressions of a belief in me to enter the role of mother, a showering of love to wash me in confidence and fill my heart beyond measure. A feast of the most nourishing foods, a dance party, gifts of herbs and plants and salves, potions, candles, and sacred objects…it was the most dreamy day I could have imagined.

I feel like the luckiest womyn in the world to have community to hold me so, to have a coven sister to organize everyone (I love you so much marapanacci), to now have a freezer full of meals for my postpartum, fresh flowers in every room, art to decorate my birth room, and a heart so full full full ?? Thank you, thank you, thank you to all you gorgeous wimyn and all you ladies sans IG ??

I truly believe that if all wimyn were treated this way by loving community: held up, made to feel strong, cared for, and trusted through their pregnancies and motherhood (our whole lives actually), the world would change, humanity would change, we would all be better off, healthier, and happier.”

 

Being Schooled at the WorldSchoolers’ Conference

March 2018 Newsletter

Last month we had the pleasure of speaking at the Worldschooling Summit, here, in Guanajuato Mexico. I was completely and utterly blown away.

I met very, healthy, and autonomous kids from Australia who’d just arrived from the United Emirates the night before with their family of five. Even though jet lagged, they sat right next to me and asked me “who” I was and where I came from. I found out what books they were reading and how they both loved and felt challenged by living internationally.

Another teen came up to me and expressed how happy she was to be in a “slow travel” groove with her family right now while going to a Catholic school in Columbia run by nuns. Her Mom has arranged it that she gets to go to classes and engage in the extra curricular activities but that she does not need to do the homework OR write any of the tests.

I had the pleasure of sitting, over lunch, with another teen who lives on a permaculture farm in the United States whose family takes extended travel stints all over the world. He stated that he’d like to fashion his life to live more off-grid like many of the other kids attending the conference and that he’s working on going to China for a teen retreat with many of the other youth at the conference travelling solo.

I met a family, like us, who live much of their year in a colonial town near us here in Mexico. Their father built software for music teachers and their mother is a life coach. The kids are self-educated. Last week, while their mom was in the States for a conference, they wanted to prepare all the meals at home. So their Dad helped the three of them to look up recipes online, get the groceries and prepare the meals while he ran his business behind the scenes, available to help them at a moments notice.

In this exercise, they learned about food, shopping, commerce and chemistry and viable necessary life skills. So much about “unschooling” is being able to adapt to the present circumstances and developing one’s inner resources. Many of the kids I met are bi- or tri-lingual. One family with a single Mom from Montreal who live in Mexico speak 5 languages fluently.

All this communing with folks has helped to broaden my knowledge base around what it means to be worldschooled. How this naturally builds empathy, compassion and ingenuity in unfamiliar places with folks who you often must rely on for your safety and purveyance in everyday life. It’s humbling and restores your faith in the goodness of everyday people.

It’s true that I fell head over heels in love with these amazing individuals and that I too have the heart of a worldschooler. I can’t wait to teach more on how to be a successful digital nomad and raise free range kids who’re citizens of the world.

Three Facts You Need To Know About Dental Mercury, By Amanda Just and John Kall, DMD of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxicology (IAOMT)

This article has been reprinted with permission from worldmercuryproject.org

1. All silver-colored dental fillings, also called amalgams, contain approximately 50% mercury, and dental mercury is still being used in the USA.

In 2013, the United Nations Environment Programme (UNEP) formalized a global convention to reduce mercury usage, which includes initiatives to phase down the use of dental mercury.  The UNEP mercury convention will come into force on August 16, 2017, and as part of this effort, the European Union is taking action on dental mercury.  A new EU mercury regulation plans to prohibit the use of amalgam for vulnerable populations (pregnant or breastfeeding women, children under 15 years old) and provide for discussion about the feasibility of ending dental amalgam use in the European Union by 2030.

Prior to the 2017 ratification of UNEP’s mercury treaty, other countries had already taken protective actions against dental mercury.  For example, Norway and Sweden have banned dental amalgam, and Denmark, Estonia, Finland, Italy, the Netherlands, and Japan have reportedly limited its use to less than 5% of tooth restorations.  However, mercury fillings are still used on about 45% of direct dental restorations worldwide, including in the United States.

All silver colored dental fillings, which are still being used in the USA, contain about 50% mercury.

2. Mercury vapor is released from these fillings into the human body, and this dental mercury has been linked to health risks.

Mercury vapor is continuously emitted from dental amalgam which means that people are directly exposed to the mercury in their mouths.  The output of mercury vapor can be intensified by the number of fillings and other activities, such as chewing, teeth-grinding, and the consumption of hot liquids.  Mercury is also known to be released during the placement, replacement, and removal of dental mercury amalgam fillings.

Scientific researchers have associated this mercury in amalgam fillings with Alzheimer’s disease, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (Lou Gehrig’s disease), antibiotic resistance, anxiety, autism spectrum disorders, autoimmune disorders/immunodeficiency, cardiovascular problems, chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, hearing loss, infertility, kidney disease, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, and an array of other health problems. Click here to learn more about the potential health risks of dental mercury.

3. Safety measures can reduce the amount of mercury vapor released during the removal of amalgam fillings.

Some patients require the removal of silver amalgam fillings due to device failure, while others opt for the removal of silver amalgam fillings because of cosmetic purposes (white-colored fillings match the teeth better) or because they prefer to have dental fillings that do not contain mercury. However, the process of drilling out amalgam fillings liberates quantities of mercury vapor and fine particulates that can be inhaled and absorbed through the lungs, and this is potentially harmful to patients, dentists, dental workers, and their fetuses.

The application of specific safety measures can reduce the potential negative health outcomes of mercury exposure during the amalgam removal process.  It is crucial for patients to know what these safety measures are so that they can insure these practices are implemented during the removal of amalgam fillings.

These writers co-authored a chapter about the health risks of dental mercury that was published in a textbook about epigenetics from Springer in 2016.

Amanda Just, MS:  Ms. Just is the Program Director of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxiciology.  She is also a freelance writer and dental consumer who has shared her writings about the impact of dental mercury amalgam fillings with the United Nations Environment Programme, the U.S. Department of State, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA), and various NGOs.

John Kall, DMD:  Dr. Kall serves as the Chairman of the International Academy of Oral Medicine and Toxiocology’s Board of Directors.  He is a member of the American Dental Association, a fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry (AGD), Past President of the KY Chapter of the AGD, a member of the Louisville Dental Society, and a member of the Kentucky Dental Association.

Worldschooler’s Summit and The Launch of Hemp Gitchies

February 2018 Newsletter

This month (January 2018) I’m speaking at the World Schoolers Summit, here in Guanajuato, MX. They’re a group of international digital nomads who are mostly educating their kids while living around the world. I’ve been connected to them online for well over a decade.

Way back when our kids were little, I thought it was very important to expand their cultural horizons. I chose to expose them to individuals from different countries, cultures, languages, and family dynamics. I didn’t want them to think that their bubble of relative privilege was all there was to life. I wanted to mentor empathy for them. The World Schoolers group helped me to keep my vision true to its purpose.

Back then, I had to get creative as we were fairly limited financially given that Jeff and I were both studying at the postgraduate level and the kids were in private Waldorf schools. There was more money going out the door than coming in. We also had a farm, a kids camp that we ran in the summer and also a community garden where a few friends came from the city to grow their food.

We had international students live with us while attending school in Ottawa, Canada during the school year. There goal was to increase their fluency in English. A couple of them came from Madrid, Spain and also Veracruz, Mexico. The latter gal grew up in a grand hacienda with maids and a cook. Another girl’s mother had been tragically killed in a bombing in the subway in Spain. We loved on her like our own. Now that I look back, it’s interesting that the lottery of kids that were offered to live with us all came from Spanish speaking countries which is where are second home is now located.

At the World Schoolers Summit, I’m going to get into some of the ways in which we run 3 vibrant businesses; “Arcanum Wholistic Clinic”, “Arcanum Acres Publishing”, and my most recent venture into clothing manufacturing, “Hemp Gitchies : Feels as Good On Your Hiney as It Does On Your Conscience.” The latter is this year’s latest enterprise in making hemp, bamboo and cotton undies beginning with the women’s line. We’re going to we working with women sewers who’ve formed a cooperative that have been rescued from pedophile rings as well as ex-sex trade workers in both the United States and Canada.

Pretty soon, we’ll be looking for women (and later men and kids, too) to try out our sample undies at cost and give us feedback on the style and wearability. We’re so excited as we’re a small group of Heilkunst-connected peeps who already feel like kin and who’re very interested in rolling out this new enterprise within our existing friends and family. That means that we’ll be seeking folks like you to try out our first samples in the next few months.

Our hope is that you’re doing well, and as feeling fully in love with your life.

 

  • All Worldschooler’s Summit Images above are credited to Jay Shapiro, Worldschooling parent

 

Homeschooling At Its Best; A Moment In Time with Greater Consequences Than Any Of Us Knew

A dozen or so years ago, I lived on a farm with my husband (fellow Heilkünstler, Jeff Korentayer) and my two children, Jordan and Adie. Jeff and I saw patients regularly in our home. He worked from the office upstairs and I had two chairs set up in an enclosed space on the main floor. We both saw in-person patients as well as working by phone and Skype.

Often the kids, ages 12, (Jordan) and 9, (Adie), were around outside or in the house while we were working, however, they had a stash of snacks and water and knew to remain in the summer kitchen or their rooms while we were working. Often they were out playing in the 7,000 square foot barn, or out somewhere on the 6 acre property. They were fairly self-sufficient in many respects and we encouraged their autonomy and sovereignty, especially while we were working.

Unexpected Visitors

One Sunday, in the early evening, the children and I were upstairs reading in the master bedroom when we heard a car pull onto the large gravel, semi-circular driveway. I stopped reading to them as we all craned our necks to look out the window to see who might be coming up the drive? We weren’t expecting anyone and so we were curious as to the hour and the nature of our visitor’s intent.

Working on my nighttime photography for my on-line course. Not usually my thing at all, but this balmy evening in Fredericton, N.B. was very forgiving. Shot on my Nikon D3100 with my 18-55mm lens.

Jeff answered the doorbell and I overheard the familiar voice of one of my in-person patients. Some of his key words floated up the stairwell to the bedroom the kids and I were in. We heard, “emergency, hospital, nebulizer, drugs, and breathing issues” followed by his daughter’s name; also a patient of mine.

I had been working on issues of reflux with her and we were in the early stages of Heilkunst treatment. She also had been diagnosed with a congenital heart defect shortly after her birth that resulted from an 8mm hole through the muscle.

I headed down the stairs with Jordan and Adie in tow. I greeted the Father (I’ll call him G.) and then went to the car to see his wife (also a patient) and their 3 year old (Who we’ll call K), in the back seat. She was crying inconsolably which indicated a lack of respiratory problems. The first thing I suggested was that we release her from the restriction of the car seat and get her into her parents’ arms.

K.’s eyes were glistening, her cheeks red, and she was looking very stressed with sweat dripping around her hairline. G. said that both he and his wife wished they’d not taken her to the hospital as it didn’t help, they were all stressed, upset and feeling guilty and wondering, would I be able to help? Also, they inserted that they were sorry to have just come here to our home during our personal time, but they didn’t know what else to do.

Surprising Side-Effects

I let them know that with breathing issues, it is always best to go to the emergency room as that is the right jurisdiction for such medical conditions. When they asked if I could help, I stalled for a second as it was a bit like asking a general practitioner to step into an emergency room. Our speciality is chronic disease — we clear traumas from our patient’s timeline in a civilized way, consistently, one month apart by previously established appointment.

As I fumbled for a moment, not having had my Clinician’s hat on in several days, I began to think of what to do. The next thing I heard was Jordan’s voice, “Well Mom, if you ask me, you’ve got to clear out those drugs from her body as they will just be in the way of her trying to get better,” and then from Adie, “Yeah, Mom, clear the drugs and then you can deal with the root cause for why she’s having trouble breathing.”

All of us adults turned our heads to look at them both. G. started to laugh. I was still a little startled and realized that is precisely what was warranted and so I thanked both the kids for their wisdom. I asked Jeff to make up the rx for this very recent timeline event staring us all in the face, “Cort., Penecill., Benedryl, O2, Am-carb., Ars., Sulph., Nux-v.” in ascending potencies while I went to check K.’s chart to see what we’d last treated.

As it turned out, we were clearing an event when she was having trouble breathing shortly after birth. This was a healing reaction, not the disease matrix anchored to the Genetic Miasm Medhorrinum. (See our blog articles on Healing Reactions and Genetic Miasms; including Med.) I breathed my own huge sigh of relief.

We just needed to clear this recent iatrogenic event knowing that K.’s breathing mechanism would naturally restore on its own. We also talked about using peppermint essential oils and salt inhalations with steaming water, that had been removed from the stove by draping her head over the bowl, in order to support, and not suppress the life forces’ trajectory to heal for the curative rx that was provided two weeks prior.

Our job at this phase was to support the healing reaction. I also told them that if she was struggling with any further breathing issues where they felt alarm, to get back to the hospital asap.

A Year Later …

Fast forward a year and bit — K. never had another breathing issue. Also, her reflux was cured. The other amazing thing is that when they took her to the surgeon to schedule surgery to repair the hole in her heart, the MRI indicated that it was already gone!

The cardiologist wanted to have a conversation with me by phone as he’d never seen such a significant hole completely disappear before. (See our success stories page for more success stories from our patients). It is fair to say that he had trouble pronouncing “Heilkunst.”

That next summer, I applied to be the medic at a children’s camp, with Jordan and Adie in tow, in order to become more proficient in first aid prescribing. The parents were asked for their permission for me to treat their kids using homeopathic principles along with standard Red Cross first aid. I had epi-pens along with oxygen tanks and a humongous first aid kit.

I treated bee stings, rashes, headaches, a couple of fevers, homesickness and even a child coming to terms with the fact that they might be gay. It was a great time of learning and resulted in our Webinar course on First Aid prescribing.

Jordan and Adie

My Waldorf/Homeschooled kids, Jordan and Adie, are all grown up now. My son Jordan, (now 23), is a trampoline acrobat, and Bowen Practitioner, working mostly with children and youth as well as managing a staff of twenty plus. He uses his Saint John Ambulance first aid training constantly; once even for a woman suffering a compound fracture where the bone punched through the skin. He was level-headed and stabilized the limb until the paramedics arrived.

My daughter, Adie (now 20), is planning to study medicine, too. I am so proud of her as I know that her patients will so appreciate her level head and kind, compassionate heart and she will prove to be brilliantly knowledgeable in this area of medicine.

I can’t help wonder if my own kids’ exposure to patients, children and medicine factored into their choosing their own life paths into the field of physiology and the care of human beings. It certainly feels like it, given their accurate diagnosis in the case of little K. It may very well have been a springboard moment that helped to launch them into their own life paths. © Allyson McQuinn

You never know when a homeschooling moment might factor as consequences to someone’s greater unfolding in the future. It feels like my own learning has certainly paralleled and activated something innate in both of them. I love this path that we continue to share, now at a distance, but so connected through our hearts and the compassion for our fellow humans along the way.

 

If “Science” Says It’s Proved, Then It Must Be …

Photo by popofatticus “evening read”

If “Science” says it’s proved, then it must be … what about a science of the heart ?! When, after a long day, and their baths were done and they both smelled delicious after having put the life stock away, I’d call out, “Stories in the big bed!” they’d both come running with books in tow.

I’d light a beeswax candle to mark the sacredness of this time, take a big breath, lie down and wait for them to cuddle in, their heads on my chest. They loved “The Paper Bag Princess,” or “Tyrone the Terrible,” or “I’ll Love You Forever,” or “Mary Louise Loses Her Manners.”

Later on we went through the gruesome tales of Grimm’s tome … several times … given that they were also reading them at their Waldorf School. They’d have great discussions about the moral elements in these stories, cutting their ethical teeth. I loved to listen to them as the candle burned on.

This gesture of taking the time to connect to themselves, and to literature, now also taking time from their busy day, now, as adults. The reading was a portal into intimacy, sacredness and grace on our farm where chores, serving patients, and post graduate studies often burned several candles at all ends.

Reading to each other was never forgone in the rhythm of our day, harnessing the love of art, beauty and truth into the astral realm of our sleep. Remembering why and how much we were, and are, loved and cared for was more for our hearts than the silly wires of our brains. Seriously!

The Pill Blog

 

Look around you, do you know women who live out of this state of mind?  Perhaps you do too?  Have you taken “The Pill?”  Did your mother take “The Pill” before having you?  

I, myself, suffered such severe migraines with kaleidoscopic vision on “The Pill” and then a mini-stroke at the Women’s College Hospital in Toronto over 30 years ago. I also developed a tumour the size of golf ball in my left breast (go to the link on our bio to listen to the FREE audiobook for more), AND I also suffered this state of mind.

As Physicians (knowledge of the spirit), it is our responsibility to look at greater phenomena that has resulted from a patriarchal society and address each state of mind that spawns symptoms of this nature. So many of us have remained pawns to the insidious forces feeling like prey with no way out, deeply desiring to find our way back to our essential selves, our divine factory settings.

It is our birthright to first fully understand ourselves, the matrix we live in and then harness the forces of nature in order to annihilate diseases of this nature that keep us pinioned. Heilkunst Medicine, using the homeopathic principle: like cures like, enables us to do this. We can say “No.”  It begins with us. Remember who you are.

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