For thousands of years, our bodies, our biological functions, our desires, and our innate spiritual and emotional wisdom have been bastardized by dominator religions, suppressed, used, commoditized, and minimized. It’s time to take it all back.
For this reason, both men and women feel lost and out of balance sexually. As part of our pure essence, our sexuality is a sacred chalice of pure knowledge and growth filling us with so much delicious energy that it is often indescribable. Our life force is what sustains and heals us internally with orgonotic streamings and orients us to the higher dimensions of consciousness.
Why else would we be endowed with such capacities if not to know the essence of creation and re-creation though the act of sacred communion with our lover. Through orgastic connection, we can exchange a mind-blowing fount of energy, and discharge pent up frustration, fears, grief, guilt, and shame. It’s the opportunity to wholly express our true natures and come back from such sacred unions reordered, cleansed, and truly blessed by our unions.
To be filled with a sense of pleasure, love, joy, and gratitude an individual is able to realize the fuller bounty of being a wholly healthy human being as the darker powers that be would like you to feel marginalized, off kilter, and shut down sexually. You deserve connection, pleasure, and wholeness sexually with your beloved and we can help you to derive more fulfillment and meaning from your intimacy with your dedicated partner if you both desire it.
At this point in our evolution, we reclaim our sacred sexuality; our pleasure, our power. No construct can rent our erotic essence asunder.
[This post is from the October 2020 newsletter – click here to read it.]
What’s the recipe for a symptomless menopause? Read on and see.
Wikipedia defines menopause as, “Menopause, also known as the climacteric, is the time in most women’s lives when menstrual periods stop permanently, and they are no longer able to bear children. Menopause typically occurs between 49 and 52 years of age. Medical professionals often define menopause as having occurred when a woman has not had any menstrual bleeding for a year.” In my opinion, this is a disgusting, dry, and brittle definition and obviously written by someone who’s never experienced this most powerful transformation in a real, healthy way.
When the energy in my body was focussed more on procreation, I followed the lunar impulse and shed the lining of my uterus as an emblem of my procreativity. It transpired every twenty-eight days so that I would be reminded rhythmically of my innate endowment. It was a beloved contract between me and the orchestrator of my biology, and delicious impulse for my animating wisdom. It was never just about producing offspring. I’d hate to see how Wiki diminishes the uterus!
I was in a state of constant creation: researching, writing books, and serving beloved patients. The cessation of my menses was never meant to be reduced to a missed opportunity as a so-called ‘breeder.’ It was never about the clinical capacity to ‘bear children’ that defined my innate capacities, but a more spiritual connectivity that gifted me with capacities ordained to the divine nature of my sex. Why do you think our wombs are heart-shaped? So we don’t forget that we’re deeply and abidingly loved as co-creators.
When my menses ebbed over a 2.5 year span almost 10 years ago, I knew I was receiving the clear signal, “You’ve got this. I know you won’t forget the rhythm of being a creative wisdom bearer.” I knew that my full capacities as a bodacious, full throttle, knowledge-lover would now come to ripen fully through consciousness.
My creative forces ramped. My thoughts, crystal clear. I wrote a book about self-education and another one on natural birth. I felt more assured than ever before that my pristine voice came not from my head, but from my loins. I was fully confident in what I was ordained to be; my functional purpose was more luscious, rich, and steeped in skill and gnostic juice than ever before.
I was creating a strand of rare pink pearls that would polish into a legacy. I was transmuting and transcending into the woman I was wholly meant to be without any trappings of youthful insecurity and none of that energy was leaking, for any other purpose but to fully be.
And to top it all off, our sex became a spiritual communion of an order wholly otherworldly. Gone was the need for birth control. Woohoo! Hello to an orgasmic liberty never realized prior. Over the last ten years I would never reduce what I’ve experienced as just ‘climacteric,’ and neither should you. Frankly, Wiki, you can go to hell!
Did you know that the pill was tested on impoverished, Catholic women in Puerto Rico? Did you know that out of approximately 132 women tried for the pill back in the 1950’s that 3 of them actually died? Did you know that the pill was released to the general public anyway?
Theresa Vargas cites, “The truth was that little was known about the drug’s effects when Rock and biologist Gregory Pincus – with the backing of birth control advocate Margaret Sanger and philanthropist Katherine McCormick – decided to launch the human trials. The drug had been tested on rats and rabbits, and on a small sampling of women in Rock’s medical practice in Massachusetts. But its largest test would be in Puerto Rico, where as many as 1,500 women took the drug over several years.
Three women in the trials died. But no autopsies were conducted, and so it remains unclear if their deaths were linked to the drug, which was given in much higher doses than it is today.”
Did you know that Doctors chose not to share these results as they may “confuse the patient?” Those patients, my fellow goddesses, were our grandmothers, our mothers, our sisters and our aunts. I’m pretty sure that they were anxiously waiting for an easy and accessible answer to not be trapped at home with unwanted pregnancies. However, by also choosing not to examine the cautionary inserts included with their prescription of 28 days worth of little pink pills, they were buying more than they bargained for.
Here are some of the common side-effects of the birth control pill as per Cosmopolitan Magazine:
1. Nausea. Though expected to last only up to three months, some women feel queasy when they start the Pill, Ross says. Taking your pill with a meal can help reduce how icky you feel during the time your body needs to adjust to new levels of estrogen and progesterone.
2. Breast tenderness. Alas, this downside of oral contraceptives can apparently last for up to 18 months on the Pill, according to a report by the American Family Physician. Sorry.
3. Bloating. Changes in the ups and downs of your body’s sex hormones can lead to water retention and bloating. These effects may be particularly strong for women suffering from irritable bowel syndrome and other gastrointestinal tract disorders. That being said, many women feel better six months into a new pill regimen.
4. Headaches. A 2005 study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology found that approximately 10 percent of women feel headachy within a month of starting the pill. Once the body acclimates to a new oral contraceptive, however, the study authors conclude most reports of headaches go away.
5. Increased appetite. Perhaps you recall from ever having PMS that hormones can make you super hungry. Same goes when you alter your estrogen and progesterone levels via birth control. But an increased appetite doesn’t always lead to packing on pounds, Ross points out. In fact, she says, “there’s still no definitive proof that birth control directly causes weight gain.”
6. Yeast infections. Some women may need to invest in a few more Monostat packs after they go on the pill. Ross says this is likely due to changes in the use of tampons and new patterns of bleeding induced by the Pill.
7. Mood swings — and other emotional issues. This issue is complicated. While some women with a history of mood issues — depression, anxiety, even insomnia — tend to see an increase in their symptoms’ severity once they go on some birth control pills, others report that going on the Pill improves their psychological turmoil. (More on this below.)
8. Blood clots. Newer versions of birth control pills (like Yasmin) appear to put some women at an elevated risk of blood clots compared to “first-generation” pills, whose progesterone has a different chemical makeup. So long as gynecologists and patients monitor side effects, this can be kept under control. But be sure to bring this up with your doctor, just to be safe.
9. Brown spots on your face. Oral contraceptives have been found to increase women’s risk of a skin condition called melasma, which can make your face break out in some brown-colored splotches. Research shows, however, that this is more likely to occur in women who have a family history of the skin issue. Switching from the pill to an IUD may be able to resolve this, several case studies suggest.
10. Lower sex drive. Some women report decreases in their libido once they begin the Pill, Ross says. But she points out that much of this may be due to birth control’s shorter-term side effects — think: bloating, breast pain. (Who wants to be sexual when everything hurts and you feel like there’s a balloon in your belly?)
11. changes to eyesight for those using contact lenses
Sound like a bad late-night television ad by Big Pharma for a drug you’d never choose to take because the side effects outweigh the benefits? They don’t even mention infertility.
We’ve been addressing folks’ timeline traumas for almost 20 years and we’ve noticed that when we address the pill homeopathically on the law of nature, like cures like, suddenly they will be able to conceive.
I, myself, suffered a mini-stroke on the pill in 1982. While being treated for said trauma at The Women’s College Hospital in Toronto, I also learned that that there is a home north of the city dedicated to women who’d suffered strokes and other debilitating side-effects while taking the pill.
So what do you do if you want to engage in romantic love and sex without risking the chance of conception? How do you preserve your hormonal health? How can you ensure you don’t risk having to suffer from the list of side effects? Or infertility later on? Or have a stroke like I did and end up in hospital either short or long term? Or God-forbid, end up like three of the women from Puerto Rico did?
Here’re are the options we suggest for our own patients:
This is a latex-free alternative to the condom that acts like a second skin in the woman’s vaginal canal. You insert it so you’re sure that you’re covered. You can join their club out of the UK and they’ll drop ship these latex free sheaths. The big advantage of a Luwi is that you can wear it up to 8 hours before intercourse so you don’t have to suspend lovemaking to put anything on. It also prevents STD’s and potential infections.
The Fem-cap is softer silicone than say a DivaCup, but kind of similar. It takes a few tries the first time to really make sure it’s in place, but there are lots of instructions and Youtubes, etc. Colleagues of mine have never had it slip out of place, their partner can’t feel it, and you can leave it in for 24 hours. You can add more spermicide and use it multiple times. You just need to keep it in for 7 hours after sex.
It uses a lactic acid based spermicide which they also sell- totally natural, and they haven’t had any issues with it throwing off their vaginal flora.
Between my own pregnancies, I used a non-medicated IUD. I had 3 of them over the course of my menstruating years in between my two children. After my fiasco with hormonal birth control, I was not about to risk a progesterone time-released IUD.
In my mind, I was not about to mess with the 5,000 self-regulating hormones and chemicals in my body. I’d already an inch and a half tumor in my left breast that I wasn’t going to risk messing with my hormones any further. I didn’t even use the copper ones. For patients, I’ve added a dose of homeopathic copper (cuprum) for regular chelation in their Drainage and Organ Support Dropper Bottle.
THE SALIVA TEST
We used to recommend The Lady Comp when back when we first opened our practices, however, they don’t seem to be making them anymore. There are fertility saliva tests you can choose from, so we found one that touts a 98% accuracy.
Now this wasn’t a great method for me as my hormone levels did not show up clearly enough for me to have an accurate read out, while other women who do have high enough levels love this option. This is why I chose the IUD as I could pretty much conceive while folding my husband’s underwear!
CONDOM and SPERMICIDE (natural sources)
Once you know if you’re ovulating, or you want to be on the safe side with your committed partner, or you’re engaging in a fling or one night stand with a partner you don’t wholly know, this is always a good back up option.
Here’s some natural alternatives to the usual condom and spermicides you buy at the drugstore:
No Liability Note: The author and physicians at Arcanum Wholistic Clinic are in no way liable for the information offered in this blog. Whatever means of birth control you use has to ultimately be your decision and ultimate responsibility. Also, we do not recommend tubal ligation or vasectomy as these disturb the natural, healthy operating of our sex organs. What affects one part of us ultimately affects the whole.
My friend, Kate Varsava, Halifax Birthworker, Wombyn’s Summit Leader and Musician prepares for her own birth in the company of her beloved friends, yogis and fellow birthworkers. I was so inspired by her tale of being honoured with care, love and beauty that I asked to share her Instagram post with you.
“Yesterday my house filled up. Yesterday I was filled up.
From my bath, filled with warm water, rose petals, and lavender oil, where I was receiving a massage from the loving maiden hands of my sweet friend‘s daughter, I could hear the joyful chatter of wimyn gathering and organizing themselves. I was adorned with a gorgeous fresh flower crown made by my sister, had my hair fixed up, put on my precious jewels…when I emerged from my room, drawn by singing voices, I found my kitchen full of food, my living room full of flowers and ladies (and baby daddy), and my whole house full of beautiful, buzzing, nurturing energy, beaming faces, radiant beings.
I was passed a cup of Guatemalan cacao, sat on a thrown, and treated like a queen. Tender recollections of how we each met, supportive expressions of a belief in me to enter the role of mother, a showering of love to wash me in confidence and fill my heart beyond measure. A feast of the most nourishing foods, a dance party, gifts of herbs and plants and salves, potions, candles, and sacred objects…it was the most dreamy day I could have imagined.
I feel like the luckiest womyn in the world to have community to hold me so, to have a coven sister to organize everyone (I love you so much marapanacci), to now have a freezer full of meals for my postpartum, fresh flowers in every room, art to decorate my birth room, and a heart so full full full ?? Thank you, thank you, thank you to all you gorgeous wimyn and all you ladies sans IG ??
I truly believe that if all wimyn were treated this way by loving community: held up, made to feel strong, cared for, and trusted through their pregnancies and motherhood (our whole lives actually), the world would change, humanity would change, we would all be better off, healthier, and happier.”
The reason being surmised is that the frosty weather, time off over the holidays and the urge to merge just seems to take us when we’re not working so hard at our day jobs. Perhaps we get a little free babysitting thrown into the mix, with extended family, and the next thing we know, we’re due in late August or September.
Our blogs are focused this month on “The Pill” and also “Where Do Babies Come From.” You may be surprised that there’s a new thing or two to learn since grade 10 health class. We aim to bring you the latest truths that often exploit the party line on health and sexuality.
Jeff and I are getting ready to head over to Cancun early February to spend some time seaside with our son Jordan. He’s flying down to meet us from Ottawa and we’re excited to take him snorkeling in Puerto Morelos, the second largest barrier reef in the world. We also want to show him the spawning centre for sea turtles on Isla Mujeres.
Cozumel has a handmade chocolate factory that we love and the hot chili chocolate is mindblowing. We will rent a ragtop beetle from another era … okay from when I was a kid and tour the island. There’s a restaurant with mind-blowing ceviche and you can wiggle your toes in the sand while eating and watching the waves crash on the shore. I love to swim there after a late lunch.
Our hope is that you’re all keeping warm, or perhaps escaping to a hotter spot, too, this Winter. Either way, if you’re due in September, we’ll know that you created your own heat wherever you are.
Recently re-fitting out my first book, The Path To Cure, as a new audio book for a podcast was a ginormous 18 month long project. Jeff asked me to write a brand new intro to every chapter being revealed to a brand new audience weekly. As a result, I had to relive every one of my words written, wrought with so much pain and suffering from the past. For this month’s newsletter theme on Cancer, I chose to decorate the banner with the passion flower instead of the daffodil. Perhaps below, and in our blogs contained herein, you’ll understand the dynamic reason for this.
The truth is that what you’re destined to be is buried like a passionflower seed in your loins and to fully actuate your passion means first finding your individual seed, discerning what it means, and then providing the conditions ripe for it to grow. Think about what you’ve engaged with in life where you truly lose all track of time. If you still can’t figure it out, pick up Boni Lonsburry’s book, The Map to a Responsive Universe Where Dreams Really Do Come True.
Boni acknowledges that while not everyone knows what they want to be, she correctly cites that everyone knows how they want to feel. By holding the charge of feeling and tossing over board your beliefs that you’re value is not great enough to receive such abundance, you can create the circumstances ripe for what you feel ordained to be. Your passionflower will begin to self-actuate and seemingly random opportunities will start to crystallize.
Cancer grows in an environment devoid of heat (resonant sex), oxygen (principled recreation) and love (true desire function). The opposite is the recipe for a fully orgasmic life!
Sugar and chocolate are suppressive and a function of an oral block. She just can’t get the sweet passion out of life! Eating sugar and chocolate is really a sad attempt to garner the sweetness from life externally instead of through primary drives internally. You’re not wholly expressing your feelings to yourself, or others in your life, or fully actualizing your love function (your passion) through to a full fruition (the fruit itself). You have to have juicy sex with the whole of your world.
A primary drive as per full actualization is feeling so connected to your love function that you make no excuses to create what you love confidently and share it with the world unabashedly. This God-imbued talent or gift is hidden in your generative capacity and as you go through Heilkunst treatment, it will get harder and harder to suppress it. Your passion flower can not be suppressed long-term without symptoms.
Don’t be surprised if you suddenly start doodling while on the phone, or magically waking up with whole poems written in your head, or feel driven to teach others how to ferment their own foods, sew baby’s clothing and sell them, coach a fellow mom at her birth, or suddenly pick up a musical instrument, dance, sing, teach, research or become an astronaut. These are just examples I’m thinking of from specific patients I’ve served.
Perhaps this year, you’re poised to find the man or woman of your dreams to have the kind of spiritual and romantic sex that you’ve always dreamed of. Don’t ever settle for anything less, as the Cancer state of mind will reduce your bar, sublimating your true desire function into watching television, eating non-resonant junk foods, doing things for family members to the exclusion of yourself more out of obligation than love or working that tortuous 9-5 desk job in that 10 x 12 cubicle with the daily 3 hour commute.
Cancer is a state of mind defined as the disease of resignation. You’ll hear her say things like, “Well, if I don’t do it, no one else will. And certainly no one can do it as well as me.” They’re exhausted, burnt out. When you listen to them, your internal pathetic meter will be activated. I know, as I used to provoke this response in others. Due to my lack of inner guidance system, folks would happily step up to take over and tell me precisely their agenda and how I’d want to come along.
Cancer loves a false authority which is why I gravitated to false patriarchal constructs like Judaism and also worked for the Government. If someone asked me how I was, I put my child in front of me like a mascot for my un-lived life. The truth was, I didn’t really know. I was just that pathetic an I ended up with an inch and a half round tumour in my left breast as an emblem of how I was devoid of self-nurturing and a real sense of my self.
Let us know if you feel you’re suffering the same and we’ll provide you with the therapeutic keys to harness your own passion flower. We all deserve to wholly self-actualize. I should know … and, oh baby, I do. It’s why I stepped up onto “The Path to Cure.”
Most folks in committed relationships feel that conflict is a bad thing. The shadow side of the self is often suppressed with tactics like “anger management” or palliated with the “power of positive thinking.” The subconscious will always leverage the shadow content for your “not so viewing pleasure” if you choose to keep it falsely couched behind an over active intellect. The intellect thrives falsely anchored in the past or projected into the future and true health can be achieved as long as this is the pattern. Relationships demand connection to our true feelings and it is best if we know what they are before negative conflict arises.
By offering yourself as a more explored whole to your partner, you risk less destabilization and demoralization on both sides. If you choose to use the the relationship as the primary vehicle for raising negative content from the subconscious, you risk destroying your relationship with your partner and over time, with yourself. You’ve heard how an abused man or women will enter into a similar relationship a second time. When the conflict arises, you often get taken by the thrust of stored negative emotions that leave you mystified and trapped in a “he says, she says” mode of negative communication. Really, no one ever benefits from a battle of wills. This primal loop of negativity just loops tirelessly around and around.
Most art and film, for example, reveals our suppressed feelings “in the now” that allow us to see who we are in the light of day. It will even expose our bad bits in a very positive medium. The movie The Matrix is a very good example how art can render just how unconscious we’ve become to the forces of evil that puppet us. In order to convert the shadow side of our being, and live outside our own Matrix, we need to shed some light on this nether aspect of the self. Our grief, fear, anger and guilt are not going anywhere, and as you may already suspect, they do despise positive thinking and will sabotage it constantly. If we commit to harnessing them correctly, however, we can know a greater self-powered consciousness than ever before. By first embracing what is, in the moment, our emotions will convert, offering themselves up as a fount of creativity. Safe expression of our feelings can become a vehicle to our greater creativity and ultimate healthy connectivity with others.
The parts of your relationships that you despise, or even abhor, is a good indication of what you need to wrestle with in your own shadow side. That emotion, then needs expression. Using safe modalities such as a punching bag, Judo, art therapy, journaling, and poetry can allow you to safely see what is hidden at the level of your sub-conscious. You can do this first, on your own, safely illuminating negative emotions positively. Shedding light on your dark side raises your knowledge of yourself, in a more positive light, ultimately building self-confidence. This allows the relationship to benefit from your conversion of the negative into the positive. No individual finds anything more sexy than a partner who already lives a fully examined life. By the time you get to the commitment stage, you are already starting most of your sentences with, “I feel …” breeding confidence and self-esteem even when the emotions are of a negative breed. This full engagement with your feelings, relieves you of the negative matrix, allowing you to embrace positive conflict in all aspects of your life. It begins with the self and your marriage can only benefit from it.
Most folks don’t know this but if a child is potty trained under duress, it can cause a whole host of mental/emotional issues later on. Holding the breath, contacting muscles, unexplainable fears and terrors later on are some of the negative effects of forced potty training. It is best if you can allow your child to self-initiate this process naturally as much as possible. I knew an awesome caregiver who allowed all the little boys in her care to pee outside or in a big aluminum juice can set in the middle of the kitchen. Most of them would be running around freely, naked from the waist down and they loved the sound their urine stream would make on the sides of the juice can. She would praise them lovingly for a joy that they already owned for their accomplishment.
Kids don’t moralize that “pee or poo” is considered dirty, bad or awful. In fact they don’t have the maturity of the ego to understand why something that was naturally inside their body, part of them, is suddenly deemed yucky just because it is now in a diaper, in the tub or on the floor. The best parents I know don’t shove their limited way of looking at the world onto their babes prematurely. Kids work on the model of “ownership” and success so it is best if you can make this a win-win process for them as it will pay off in the long run.
If you get down on your hands and knees and imagine what it would be like to be a sixth of your present size and what it would be like to fall into the toilet, potentially not being able to get out, you’ll be off to the store to buy a suitable potty. Babes do best if they are permitted to wander and explore at their own pace around their own potty. Allow them to follow both parents into the washroom when you have to go, too. Special books with images of little kids making “poo poo” or “pee pee” in the potty can have a wonderful effect on cultivating the idea in your child. Allow them to choose whether or not the book resonates with them, as this is a safe indication of whether or not they are ready for the idea. If they seem inclined to sit on the potty while reading to themselves or while watching a favorite movie, provide them with praise and loving attentions such as, “What a big boy you are! Good job, buddy!” It is a mighty big decision for a child to separate from their own urine or stool. We rarely understand the magnitude of this decision. A consistent approach between the parents and caregivers is crucial.
If things are not going well and you suspect your caregiver may be forcing the issue, you will notice potty training anxiety such as:
being scared of the flush of the toilet when you use it.
Feeling pushed, or having been punished for a previous potty attempt will be illustrated as shame.
A history of painful bowel movements from constipation.
holding of breath / tightening of muscles.
I was shocked and upset to see my own son spontaneous stop using the potty after a DPTP (Diptheria, Polio, Tetanus, and Pertussis) shot. He would go behind a large plant in the hall screaming out, “Don’t look at me!” He would clench every muscle in his body, which seemed very counter-productive to the aim, as he attempted to “hold on” to his excrement. Although he was wearing a pull-up and encouraged to “let go” using any means that pleased him, it was the beginning of a nightmare so extreme that he was hospitalized 7 times for constipation, once being put under general anaesthetic to have the impacted stool manually removed. Later my son was labelled as “ADD” and then “Autistic.” Thankfully, we were able to resolve the underlying cause with a systematic approach called Heilkunst medicine. At the time of writing this, he is a thriving 21 year old man without an ounce of residue from this nightmare we lived when he was just a babe.
Potty training anxiety summary
general tips about healthy potty training
follow the timing and rhythm of the child (they usually start showing an interest anywhere between 18 months and 30 years; tends to be on the earlier side for girls); Will also vary with different personality types of children
allow the child to feel “ownership” about the process – have their own potty (rather than the large scary toilet).
Special toys or books that are only used when sitting on the potty
Encourage feeling of pride in accomplishment (“big boy / girl”)
Potential causes of anxiety about toilet training:
Scared of the flush of the toilet
Feeling pushed, or having been punished for a previous potty attempt
Inconsistency from the parent or caregivers
If the child has a history of painful bowel movements from constipation
explore this with an orgonomic lens
parents who need the child to be “pleasing” and follow expectations of potty training
holding of breath / tightening of muscles
nat-m in parents / family ambient
example of a couple who lost a previous baby, and were still carrying the grief into the next pregnancy
learning how to use various muscles to have a bowel movement is a process and takes time, related to overall health of child and successfully moving through each stage of development without other blockages or interferences (emotions, miasms, etc.)
Healthy relationships are a function of Love, commitment and a mature consciousness It can be tough to enter into our imaginations to look into the future with regards to the dynamics of the relationship with clear, honest eyes. Most folks know, unequivocally, at the altar whether or not they are making a mistake and due to social pressures, will go through with it anyway while the pulse races and the mind screams in protest. Pre-Marriage Counselling can be the most intelligent and Love-imbued activity you can engage with on behalf of yourself in order to shed a conscious light on the myths and misconceptions of a prospective union with another.
A popular but mistaken belief is that the main factors contributing to a long marriage are luck and love; instead, commitment and companionship actually play a more important role. In fact, one has to be committed to being their own intimate companion first! What this means, simply, is that I can only be as intimately connected to another as I am already committed to myself and my own feelings first. For example, when you are feeling anxious, ask yourself how you are really feeling? Sink down, below the anxiety into the pit of your stomach. What is the feeling? Generally, it is a deep seated and more deeply rooted fear. If you are able to connect to “the feeling” the crux of the anxiety, and name it out loud, watch the shifts that occur in your body as the breath deepens and you relax. If you are able to execute these connections to yourself, first, then you simply can offer this same capacity to connect to yourself to your beloved. It actual fact, I can only connect to another human being to the degree that I am already connected to all aspects of myself; especially my deeper feelings.
Conflict is not unusual or abnormal in a relationship; actually it can be the most illuminating tool to know the self if used constructively. Freud called this phenomenon “transference.” If I am displaying blame, criticism, or a false desire to fix someone else, what I am actually attempting to leverage from my subconscious is my fear, grief, anger, guilt and resentment by projecting onto the other person. If I can train myself to read these projections before they are projected inappropriately onto my beloved, I convert lead into gold! This is the secret behind Paracelus’ Alchemy. Alternatively, if someone chooses to live an unconscious life, they will keep projecting the same content over and over again based on deep seated karmic patterns and harbored diseases that keep one sadly puppeted by their unconscious; or neurotic and psychotic material. Once we learn to hold the charge of a deeper inner consciousness with the realization that I’m about to project it onto someone else, I can illuminate the unconscious into consciousness. Pre-marriage counselling, by an illuminated and trusted mentor can help us to face the content we harbor, poised to projected onto the tableau of an innocent marriage. For example, if I notice I’m jealous, for example, rather than anxiously blaming or accusing my beloved, I can thoughtfully engage in the root cause which is my utter insecurity and fear that I may be abandoned. In fact, in the case of jealousy, it is typically a sub-conscious projection of your little kid-fears that your are not worth being wholly committed to that was illustrated to you in early childhood by Mommy or Daddy. Most of this content has been harbored before the tender age of three.
Principled counselling is only to be used to avoid a negative situation like an imminent divorce; rather than a positive goal of consciously building a healthy, fulfilling relationship. All negative self-perceptions have the capacity to be transmuted into a benefit for yourself and subsequently the relationship. It takes courage to sink into the muck and mire of your deepest fears and hatred. Once down in the content of the demiurge at your core, you realize that as you clear the brambles with your sword of truth, it is just the whining and little kid fears of your early childhood still holding you prey. If you can pick up this side of yourself, the abandoned toddler, and purvey her/him out of the darkness with compassion and love, you will see that the positive goal of consciously building a healthy, fulfilling relationship, actually begins in your own loins! If you can rescue yourself first, you don’t project your insecurities and demands to be rescued by your partner day after day. This is the most liberating, mature and whole way of being in relationship. Can you imagine what our relationships could look like if we are both already rescued and whole; our salvation completely bagged and intact? There would be no end to the love, abundance and creativity we could explore.
Another myth is that “mature” or “smart” couples don’t need outside help to solve any conflicts or issues. Self-intelligence does not necessarily come from having a PHd. or from living a long time. Wisdom or as the Greeks spouted, “Know thyself” is a function of courage, the true capacity to face all your feelings in an honest, forthright, way and allowing your fears to convert into hope, hate into love, jealousy into faith, and grief into compassion and tenderness. The intellect is not “smart” or “mature,” in fact it is a child barely out of diapers, living out of the past or projected into the future. It is a moralizing junky that only knows how to compartmentalize, or analyze, trying to shove every feeling into filing drawers of the mind too small and contracted to fit them. Feelings just don’t fit the intellectual construct and will spew onto the outer landscape, generally projected wrongly onto others. It is a hot-flash of unconscious emotion. When we walk it down into the nether part of our being, face our truer base emotions, they will naturally convert into right thinking, informed and imbued with heat, enthusiasm and orgastic love. This is a more righteous definition for the state of maturity bourn out of a deep self-knowledge. This way of being connected to he self is sexy beyond words! Being the mature, realized, conscious being that you are naturally destroys the myths and misconceptions of the victim, prey-like self.
One misconception with far reaching implications is that having children will bring a couple closer together or patch up existing problems. What fears, anger, grief and resentment we can’t raise into consciousness out of love, actually becomes the prison projected onto the next generation. What we bear from our loins carries the same limitations, or alternatively, the love and hope we’ve consciously become. Our babes are a mirror of our limitations or the triumphs of our celebrated lives. The myths and misconceptions of pre-marriage counselling are that it can’t help. That is true if I’m hell-bent on self-destruction. Sadly, folks poised on remaining unconscious, perilously lost in the darkness, puppeted by unconscious acts that keep them, their partners and their off-spring trapped in karmic and disease patterns will perpetuate out of law; the law of resonance.
Appropriate pre-marriage counselling with a an inspirational mentor trained in the principles of Character Analysis and Orgone Therapies (enabling to access the pre-verbal ages from pre-womb to about 3 or 4 years where most patterning started) can help the individuals seeking coupledom as a function of their personal evolution be the most illuminating journey imaginable. This is not for the faint of heart and few will own the courage to plunge into these depths, however, a mentor who has journeyed the same route before you, fully conscious, trained and illuminated can be a God-send. It is time for us to cure ourselves, our relationships, our marriages and then only foster our children out of this deep abiding knowledge and love. A whole, healthy, sovereign and autonomous self will create the opposite qualities in a partner. Work on yourself first, or in conjunction with your relationship, as individual wholeness will burn off the predisposition for dysfunction and co-dependency.
I recall back in the 3rd year of medical school at the Hahnemann College for Heilkunst this discussion being raised in class. We talked about how diseases of a microbiological nature are naturally declining. How many of your peers or family members have suffering recently from cholera or scarlet fever? Even cancer is on a 25% lessening trajectory and with less than 3% therapeutic efficacy in conventional medicine, this certainly is not due to surgery, chemotherapy or radiation.
Autism will become the scourge of our modern times. It is a condition of a lack of a healthy ontic (ontological, individuality or sense of one’s self) and on the biological level, physical and emotional armouring. There is a reason that autism is coming up on the tail end of cancer, a disease so prevalent in the 60s and 70s. That is because many of these babes are being born to professional mothers who’ve been subjected not only to a whole host of environmental toxicity, vaccines, mercury fillings, and expectations to be as intellectually adept by matching their male counterparts a full 50% in global boardrooms.
However, this all is coming at a cost. Our autistic children are being born to mothers bourn out of of the state of mind of cancer. They’re mostly armoured in their natural functioning and unfoldment, they rescue others to the exclusion of themselves, and suffer feelings of the un-lived life. This is the definition for the state of mind of cancer and they are prey to the education system and the corporate infrastructure, needing a false authority to tell them what to do. I know, because they attempt to put me on the same pedestal.
“Supplemental Feeding” by Edwin & Kelly Tofslie https://flic.kr/p/mA8wb
No, I’m not saying that stay at home moms are preferable to working moms for raising our babies. The intellect will attempt to categorize what I’m saying here with a big wad of guilt and a knee jerk reflective desire to distill the whole phenomenon down to the simplest terms. It doesn’t work like that. We can’t fix this phenomenon without the proper rumination or consideration. It’s precisely THIS way of intellectualizing that is part of the problem. The intellect despises phenomenology as it prefers uni-dimensional thinking.
What I am saying is that we’re transitioning more and more into intellectual automatons, which is leaving our wombs and bubba-kins bereft of feeling, love, grace, ease, naturalness, surrender, and the capacity for true wisdom properly ensouled and incarnated in our physical bodies. We’ve lost much of our inherent ataraxia and it is impacting on the health of our children.
Our babes are being ravaged as a side-line project, an intellectual side-bar, because most people seem to “think” that they should spawn at least one child. It is part of the social construct, an offshoot of our armoured beliefs, it is something we just do. Isn’t it?! We’ve lost much of the modus operandi to want to wholly realize a love so profound with our partner, that we’re overflowing with generosity and feeling by extending this to another human being for the whole of their childhood and beyond. We’re having children and then resenting parenting them so we give them to others to parent and educate them for us.
“Amelia and Reese Terrorizing the Village by Donnie Ray Jones https://flic.kr/p/qqEUX1
I once served a female lawyer who clearly never loved her husband in that luscious, full throttle kind of orgastic way, and had really used him as a donor to spawn a son and daughter. Her hate for him and her circumstances was palatable. Her focus was on fixing her children in a loveless marriage. She even slept with the kids and never him! Can you imagine?! It was sad and pathetic and frustrating for all involved, including me, as the practitioner.
You can have the greatest regimen and throw remedies at a situation like that, but until the individual chooses love and resonance, that broken wheel is never going to turn out right, and neither are the kids. I’ve written another article on why love and intimacy are critical for the health and well-being of our children, regardless of whether they’re in the spectrum or not here.
We’re, sadly, seeing giving birth more as an intellectual milestone of achieving just one more more rung in the accomplishment factory of our driven natures through false expectations. Add to that state of mind, or lack thereof, our genetics, toxic loads in the way of GMO’s, vaccines, DNA complications, circumcision, mental anguish, and intellectual robotics, and you have a dynamic recipe for creating a child suffering ASD issues; vaccinated or not!
We’ve forgotten how to simply be, postured more as widgets to false authority and the expectations of others than on fulfilling our own true desire programs through love and a full embodied sense of our individual selves, which can at times include love for another human being, but not necessarily. I know plenty of women, and men too, who ignore their artistic or musical abilities for a law or medical degree instead, but try a side order of parenthood with disastrous consequences. We diminish the wisdom in the arts (or other more personal fulfillments) and herald the capacity to sort intellectually in the most mechanistic and materialistic of ways.
“Tears” by Thomas Leuthard https://flic.kr/p/dkvRJ9
Years ago, I served a writer mom of two autistic boys (a rare case of non-vaxxed children) who made herself go to university for pharmacy, working dispensing pills while wearing her Birkenstocks. She was a full-fledged granola momma, working a socially expected paradigm that was totally incongruent with her values. She wasn’t even close enough to the cash register to guide patients to the more resonant homeopathic medicines that she loved and used at home; her true personal preference, as she hated Big Pharma and pill pushing doctors. She lived from a state of utter incongruence and she had the symptoms to prove it. She wrote poetry on her off-hours while totally exhausted from 12 hour shifts. She despised her life and believed that she must settle for her present existence in order to clothe and feed her sons. Her husband was an artist too.
By systematically procreating, without an ensouled thought for the outcome of this choice, we starve our babes of a becoming functionally whole. This is why, as a function of evolution, we’re seeing less diseases of the physical body, like cholera, and more conditions related to our armoured beliefs, minds, spirit devoid of a true embodied wisdom. Spiritual diseases like autism, schizophrenia and drug abuse (recreational and pharmaceuticals) are on the rise. The trajectory indicates that ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorders) will become epidemic. At the time of this writing 1 in 45 children will be diagnosed as autistic.
I know this phenomenon to be true; I suffered this dynamic myself and I wrote a book, entitled, “The Path To Cure; The Whole Art of Healing Autism“, for the same reasons I’ve cited above. In the book, I cite my own son’s exodus from the autism spectrum due to Heilkunst treatment, but not to the exclusion of my former gestures of feeling prey to the expectations of others. I was a broken, bereft automaton, educated by a traditional university and working in public enterprise that did not give a rat’s hiney whether I ever had an individual thought in my head or not.
I was a Financial Advisor working for government with a dental plan and a pension, an armoured cog in a very big unfeeling wheel. I was a widget, a contrivance of cloned cyborgs, working in 8 x 12 blue felt cubicles next to other cyborgs. I hated it and my armoured hate produced a replicate of my intellectual stimming, a babe, who mimicked my chronic fears and anxieties, devoid of speech with chronic rocking back and forth, with little eye contact. Are you starting to feel the connection? Jordan had no way of being cured until I addressed the lack of connection to my true essential self … the false ego had to go!
“Who’s the parent here?” There is childish behaviour by the adults going on around them, resulting in the individual’s feeling unprotected and vulnerable to invasive influences. In particular, the child is likely to be responding to their mother’s situation, feelings, and disrupted functioning. There is an experience of being helpless to cope with their situation, and it indicates that their emotional needs are not being met. They feel like they and their needs are being relegated to the back burner, and that they are being pushed aside by their family (mother in particular). It undermines their immune system and their ability to take care of themselves. It arises when the adults are more concerned about their own immediate comforts and convenience than they are about the welfare of the child, or when they operate with beliefs that teach the child that the child or they don’t have what it takes for the child to be perfectly safe and healthy.
“Out there.” They are an autistic or schizophrenic who is incapable of dealing with the demands of life. They live in constant fearfulness and overwhelm experiences. It is a “re-evaluation” of their life purpose, in which the essence processes the last several lives while not being in a position where they have to take care of themselves or anything else. Whatever family and/or genetic processes were involved in the precipitation of the disorder were part of the destiny design.
“Feeling-phobia.” They were so devastatingly but super-subtly trained to avoid awareness of the emotions as a child that it has resulted in a breakdown of the physical system for doing so. They come from a severely denial-dominated and or repressive dysfunctional family in which any contact with what people were really feeling would have resulted in a calamitous collapse of the whole family.
Here’s a video based on Wilhelm Reich’s book, “Children Of The Future“, that may explain the gist of this article an how we produce, and alternatively prevent, armouring and gestures of autism more clearly:
In summation, the microbiological diseases were designed to furnish the physical and etheric bodies with enough challenges to help along their incarnate capacities for this next phase of evolution. We’re at the precipice of fully integrating the self, our ontic organization (as per Rudolf Steiner), or individuality. Think iPhone, iPad, iMovie, etc. Perhaps you’ll also find it interesting that autistic children generally demand an iEducation based on individual mentorship rather than conforming to the expectation of a one size fits all educational approach most of us were subjected to.
“Start ’em Young” by JL! https://flic.kr/p/37iZdB
We used to all, more or less, do the same thing in the post industrial age, working in offices, wearing the same suits. Now we’re striving for autonomy and sovereignty. The challenge, now, becomes ontological and the condition most associated with this task is autism. It is said that we’re all in the spectrum to a degree. The genetic miasms most associated with autism are Syphilis and Lyme which, as mentioned prior, follows on the heels of Cancer as per timeline treatment under the Heilkunst umbrella of protocol.
If you’re looking for additional resources, regarding this whole phenomenon, I wrote a second book on this topic entitled, “Unfolding The Essential Self; From Rage to Orgastic Potency.” It is my postgraduate thesis and also a culmination of my own personal functional purpose. I’ve spent the latter 20 years working to unravel the mess that society, my diseases, armouring, and my unwitting familial construct hemmed me into. Perhaps you are ready to take the blue pill and step out of The Matrix too.
Trinity: Neo… nobody has ever done this before.
Neo: I know. That’s why it’s going to work.
Reclaiming Our Health by John Robbins: http://www.amazon.com/Reclaiming-Our-Health-Exploding-Embracing/dp/0915811804
CDC survey: 1 in 45 children have autism: http://www.upi.com/Health_News/2015/11/13/CDC-survey-1-in-45-children-have-autism/4131447426941/
Thinking, Feeling and Willing. The Threefold Human Being. Sophia Institute: http://www.sophiainstitute.us/blog/thinking-feeling-and-willing-the-threefold-human-being
The Study of Man by Rudolf Steiner: http://wn.rsarchive.org/Lectures/GA293/English/RSP1966/StuMan_index.html
Messages From the Body by Michael J., Lincoln: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjBIDGCY7yE
Children Of The Future By Wilhelm Reich: http://www.amazon.com/Children-Future-Prevention-Sexual-Pathology/dp/0374518467
Unfolding The Essential Self; From Rage to Orgastic Potency by Allyson McQuinn: https://arcanum.ca/unfolding